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it seems that my 3 d's don't agree with my decision about not wanting oc in our life, so since 2 of them are married and on their own i said they could have contact on their own but i don't want to hear about it, my h is still saying he don't know if he can handle not seeing child, but i did find out oc was born on our anniversary, thats just terrific, ow send me an e-mail saying she hopes we can all become one big happy extended family, where does this b**** get her nerve, if husband don't give me an answer soon about no contact don't know what i'll do, was i right not trying to stop daughters from seeing oc, i really thought they would stand by my decision, this A is tearing my whole world apart
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Dear Befar,<BR>I know how you feel. When ow gave birth in April my son said he wanted to meet his "brother". I felt as if he turned on me and cried myself sick. He then said Mom, I hate ow, I feel so bad for baby because he will never have a dad like I did, I want to help him.<P>It took a day or two, but I realized he wasn't trying to hurt me. He had his own feelings and they had nothing to do w/ow. He still hates his dad did this. But he loves his dad too.<P>As for "one" happy family, ow here expects that too. H and I know it will never happen. That is the sadness.....first b/d...a card and gift but we will not be there for a party...Christmas....again a gift...we will not stop over for a visit.....first communion.....gift and the mass...nope...no attending party....as if she were an exwife and we all get along.....no...no...no...Sad isn't it?<P>She in fact has cut off visits until the courts let us because she wants H to do the set up. Also does not want a part time dad for baby.....ugh....impossible! She will not talk to me. Proof she's in na na land. <P>Stand firm w/your H befar. The marriage will suffer if you agreed to no contact and he changes the rules.<P>I will pray for you.<P>Love<BR>Debi<BR><P>------------------<BR>Imagine....
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Dear Befar,<P>I am sorry for all the hurt you are feeling.<BR>You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR>I hope your D's understand how painful this<BR>is for you.Take care, fluke
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