Hello,
Here is my story.
Back in November 2000 I got prengnant my dh was very upset he said he did not want other child. I said I was not going to have an abortion. We were having some problems. i went to my Dad's with my two girls for Thanksgiving and he went with his friend who brought other friend along. He did not tell me about being friends with this new woman. My dh said that may became friends and that he was attracted to her. Ofer christmas I when to see my mom for two weeks and the last weekend I was gone he met her and just talk about stuff and my dh told about me being pregnant and that we were having problem. I came back he spent the next weekend with me and the girls. I asked him if he met someone because I was supicious. Anyway, the next weekend he went with I thought with a friend but it was the OW. Anyway, that night they had sex and countiue for about 3 to four weeks my dh doesn't remember. I asked him that first night if he had sex with other woman he denied it. Like I say was supious until Beginning of Feburary that is when he broke it off and a week later she told him she was pregnant with his child.
While the affair was going I was bleeding and my dr. said he it was a good chance that I will m/c. I had two previous m/c. My dh told me at the end of February that he had an affair and that the other might be pregnant. I was very upset. I started to get cramps and bleed a little. At that time I decided to block it out of mine because I did not want to loose this baby. My son was born premature but healthy. Thank God for that.
Well the OW had her son a week ago and now I feeling hurt and sad and angry. I have a 3 month old a 2 year old and a 5 year old. I cry every day and I don't know what to do. I thought I wanted to work things out and we started to work back in Feb.<p>My dh told me that the OW told me before that she told him back in Dec. she slept around but it was his impression when they started to sleep together that she was not sleeping with anyone else. But now he has his doubts about that. The OW is the type to go out the bars every night. And he said that he only saw some weeks once a week and some twice a week.
My dh knows from his friend that at the first u/c sound the guy that she was sleeping with back in December was there. Why would guy be there that she broke off relations with be at the u/c. A few days after the OW found out she was all over this other guy at the bar. So my dh has some doubts that it is his. <p>O.k. the OW has not file for a paternity testing or child support. His friend told the other OW to call him so they get going on the paternity testing to find out if it his or not. The other OW moved he just found her number and called her. The OW just hung up the phone and him. Why do you think that the OW does not want to file for paternity testing. She told my dh friend that she want his name on the birth certificate but his friend told her she can't do that because she is not married to him and that my dh wants a paternity test done. We also moved so she does not know our address and has not attempted to get into contact with my dh. I wish I knew what she plans on doing. She refused my dh to go to the hospital to see the OC. My dh is waiting to see what she does. The OW does not make that much more than mininum wage. She is a child care aid. I am going crazy I want to know if this OC is my dh.<p>My dh said if it his he wants a relationship with the OC. I don't know if I can handle that but I am not going to tell my dh not to see this OC because I know that this OC deserves a Dad.
I was wondering how you get through seeing this OC with my dh and if it brings everything back again? Also I told him that I want to be there when he picks him and he should talk to her as little as possible. <p>Do you think that this OW is going to intitate the paternity testing. She has been told that my dh will fight for joint custody.<p>O.K. my husband called her. He said his name and she hung up on him. He called back and left his number on the machine. I don't know what she is planning on doing. So far she has done nothing. She does not make much money. My dh thinks her parents are helping her.<p>I just feel that she has a hold on us until we find if my dh is the husband or not. As of now she has not taken any action. However, the baby is only two weeks old. i keep thinking it is only a matter of time that she won't be pissed off at my dh and file. I wish I new if she slept with anyone else during that time. <p>Any advice please. I don't know how I will handle it if this is my dh kid. Does it get it easier with time seeing the OC?<p>[ November 04, 2001: Message edited by: Dawn71 ]<p>[ November 04, 2001: Message edited by: Dawn71 ]</p>