Dear Friends,<p>I have not post for quite sometime. <p>The last time I post I was feeling so optimistic, but lately I feel this sadness. Next Tuesday Nov. 20,will be one year of DD of the nightmare, when I found out about h xow & oc. Ladies how did you cope with your first DD aniversary?
This year it has been the most difficult and traumatic year of my life.
I am also grieving for the miscarriage that I had back in April,which my due date was on Nov. 19, 2001. I do not understand why did this has to happen. God works in misterious ways.
As this dates approaches I seem to feel very sad. <p>sidenote: H received the child support order. H was order to pay $4,936.64 in retroactive support from the date ow filed support on Nov. 22, 2000, 46%of any unreimbursed medical expenses. $85.00 per week of child support plus another $46.00 a week of retro. If this is not bad enough the judge made a mistake and still thinks that h is not working. The judge rule this decision based on what h used to received of unemployment benefits. H doesn't want to correct this problem, he's afraid that the courts will make him pay more. I was suppose to mail the papers to CD but I never did. I have been feeling so depress and sad at times that I never got around to mail her the papers. We can't afford an attorney. This arrears are too much. I do not know how this mess will end since ow& oc moved to Florida. I am sorry if this a long post.<p>[ November 12, 2001: Message edited by: mina29 ]</p>

Keep your chin up Mina. In all things let God be God.<p>On a more pratical note, i'd advise that you get the court thing straight RIGHT away. That's one of those things that the longer you wait the worse it will get.<p>Recently my boyfriend was dragging his feet on getting a child support issue resolved. The court froze his bank account, seizing all of his assets to pay arrears.<p>Be careful, and take care.

Mina,
I'm so sorry for your losses and the financial difficulties. I have also lost babies and the anniversaries are hard, esp. the passing of the due date the first year. I haven't any advice, just sympathy.<p>Prayers,
Jenny

Mina nice to see you here again but sorry for the reasons. D-day is tomorrow...1 year and I'm ok now. I wasn't for a few weeks. Just too many triggers and memories I guess.<p>The financial situation you guys are in sucks....I hope a law of some kind could be passed in which MM does not have to pay. That mom's should give up baby or raise it alone. I tell you as a woman I know it's a desperate act from a desperate woman hoping to lure MM away for good. It almost never happens . Then they get to have the slime ball pay with an 18 year sentence. Slime ball is ow words not mine. Funny how a short time ago MM was her soul mate eh?<p>I'm sick to death of child rights!! In a marriage that ends in divorce a father should help raise kids he and wife wanted together....But forced fatherhood (no matter who took their pants off BBB in case you feel the need to chime in) is atrocious!!!!<p>Let's see a MM FORCE ow to have the baby if she DOESN'T want it! HA! Never in a million years would our H's be able to pull that one off! Satan knows how to bring cheaters together and oh! the price some pay on earth!<p>WHOA!!! Went totally off didn't I? OH well. I meant to..heh..heh..heh..<p>love
Debi

Wow mina29,
It's absolutely amazing what you guys have been through. I don't know how it is going to turn out but all I do know is that God didn't bring you guys this far to just drop you. Keep the faith! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Thank you ladies for your replies,<p>I have been feeling very sad, November is a very difficult month for me. I am dealing with two losses. <p>Kattie, thanks for your advice.<p>Jenny, Thanks for your prayers.<p>Gemini, I do agree with you. I do not know the laws in your state but in NY a man is responsible to pay child support until the child is 21 years old. <p>Bintherdunthat, This year my family and I has went through a lot. I do not know how this going to end. I am trying very hard to keep my faith. H has cause too much pain, but the reality is that I still love this man very much.<p>[ November 15, 2001: Message edited by: mina29 ]</p>