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For those with contact....how do you usually handle Christmas/Holidays? Do the OC come to your home? I imagine this could be sticky, especially when you have childen of your own. Also, does OW demand gifts for the child. We will certainly buy gifts but she has asked that we not buy too much. I wonder why she said that or if she has the right.
We usually have a big party every year. This year we are not - it will be family only. My parents don't know yet and I don't know how WE are going to tell them. But one thing I know is that H will have to do the talking since he created this mess.
Hope you are all well.
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I know who and what you are so do not attack me for speaking the truth
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Hi Bonnie,
I imagine this is quite a sticky situation for you. Do your kids know about oc? What did you tell them? Also, how were the holidays handled last year. I hope all goes well with you. Take Care and keep strong [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
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Hi Pollack
What is wrong?
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As a matter of fact, H and I just made arrangements for the holidays with exOW and OC. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
We will be getting OC for Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving. We also will have OC Christmas day. Apparently, Christmas eve is exOW's family's tradition. Since we are flexible, we are fine with that. We dont have our own children so there is no sticky situation. Also, our extended families live elsewhere and have other plans, so it will be a quiet holiday.
Frankly, we have been counting our blessings lately. We have our hiccups, but will have everything legal by early 2002. After that, I am not too concerned.
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Hi ladies
Thanks for the responses. This is the first Christmas that I have known of OC. My children DO know and they are fine with it. They are young so they like the twins around. I am no longer concerned with my friends. Those who really ARE friends have shown their support. My familty I know will support us, but it's still not going to be easy to divulge. We will be together on Thanksgiving and my H and I will tell them then. I want to make this work. Have a good day all.
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I see you are still trying to stir up trouble. You don't bother me a bit. Just stop trying to disrupt the board and stay off threads that include me, that should solve everything, don't you think???
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Bonnie, As a single parent I can see why the xOW would not want you guys to buy too much. <p>I was raised in a single parent household. My parents divorced when I was a 1. It used to drive my mom nuts that my dad was #1-only around on weekends, #2-never offered an kind of discipline and #3-was the "goody-man."<p>He ALWAYS bought us any toys we wanted and lots of them. It was WAY more fun to be at his house than at home. She felt like he was buying our love and lets face it to a ceratin degree he was.<p>At the end of the day, we loved my mom more because we lived with her and knew her better. But having a "goody-man" kind was dad was pretty damned sweet for a LOT of years, and it made her job harder. Who wants to be compared?
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Does the OW have other children? If she does, maybe she’s concerned about the twins getting more than the other(s). You know how kids are. They are very observant when it comes to presents. They notice right off when another child gets more than they did. My little guy turns 1 today. When I made the treat bags for his party, I had to count out the candy and sort the candy by TYPE of candy…lol. I had to make sure the treat bags were all the same so that no one got their feelings hurt.
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Happy Birthday Jonas!!<p>OB1, <p>Please pass on the birthday greeting to your son!<p>Love,<p>Tigger
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Thanks for your replies. They make sense. We are just going to treat all of them equally and also respect the mothers wishes not to go overboard - which we have always been careful not be with with out own. Thanks again.
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