I have been with my hubby for three years and we just got married last month. He did not want children, I did. I have not been on birth control, he has not used any either. Low and behold after the honeymoon, guess whose pregnant. He is upset and placing all the blame on me. It is both of our faults, but he is angry at me. He thinks I am being selfish because I do not want to subject myself emotionally or physically to an abortion. I have tried talking to him about his reasons for not wanting it and I get the usual money argument mostly. He also thinks child rearing ideas are too different. I have 3 children from a previous relationship that he feels should have been raised "different". This is tearing our relationship apart and my bank is getting near empty from the treatment I have been getting. How do I make him happy? I just can't have an abortion.

Dear Needhelp,<p>I don't know what advice to give you at this time. I'm sure others will offer some soon, but this is also not quite the forum to post this on. This forum is for those who are dealing with A's and the children who have resulted from such A's. I am not shooing you off, just letting you know the main topic here is of the OC(other child). You may receive more responses from the GQII or Emotional Needs part of this board. <p>Hope you get the advice you need, and soon.<p>Tigger

Needhelpquick<p>I'm sorry you're facing this dilemma. I know you and your husband need to see a good Marriage Builder counselor fast to help you resolve this issue.<p>However, please see my post on Winniee's thread which will explain what this particular site is all about. You will probably be better served going to "Resolving Conflicts" and "General Questions" on this Marriage Builder's site for guidance.<p>Good luck and God bless.<p>Catnip =^^=

Thanks for a response, but I am very confused. I thought this forum was for any marital issues. Can someone guide me to the proper area? I went to discussion forums and selected Pregnancy and child not infidelity. The general areas are just that "general" and none of those situations apply to my particular case.

Needhelp,<p>I would suggest that you post in the "Emotional Needs" section of this site. All of the parts of the site deal with marital issues, but since yours is not about infidelity, I think "EN" is a good place for you to get some feed back. It is very active and you will undoubtably hear more than you want. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>God Bless,<p>JL