I just spent the last hour snooping. I have often wondered about my H hotmail account. He keeps it secret for the most part. He looks at nude pictures, checks out erotic websites, etc. This hasn't bothered me because it is all so anonymous that I don't feel threatened by it. I did find out that he was a member of adultfriendfinder.com. He said it was nothing. I let it go, but this was well over a year ago. The other day someone mentioned the site again and I began to feel uncomfortable.
Since I know H basic info, I snooped around, figured out his password and checked his mail. The usual was there and "cupid" from adultfrien...
When I checked it, all the women who were said to be his match were within a 50 mile radius!!!!! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]
Soooo, I went to their website and after some more security, got that password. His profile said....Look for a woman...who is seeking a man...and interested in...erotic chat/email/esex, "discreet" relationships, sex(1 on 1) and more that I wont even go into. He is the one that requested that they be within a 50 mile radius.
So, I explore his hot list...nothing in it. I explore his cupid mail...he has responded to no one. It says whether or not you have emailed them before or not.
Obviously this is NOT cool. But should I believe he is cheating again.
I don't even know when the last time was that he checked his hotmail. There were 38 unread messages. None of them were personal.
I did delete his account at this site permanently. I also blocked any further emails to come to his box.
What do I do? How do I handle this?
Things have been going so well and I thought we were back on track. I dont know when he has time to have an affair but he fit one in before.
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hello,<p>twice I've written to you and twice my reply got lost before I could post it. I'm nearly in tears. Hopefully you'll get other replies, or I'll try again later. Bottom line is what H did was wrong and you know that. He must be willing to change for marriage to thrive.<p>Prayers,
J

I talked to H about my discoveries. He did not respond like someone with something to hide. He was not angry that I snooped. He didnt seem to care that I canceled his account. He said he couldnt remember the last time he even checked the site. He also said that noone can email him and he cant email anyone without paying a fee and he wont pay the fee.
He said he was just interested in what people had to say and what kinds of pictures they would send. I told him that he was just tempting fate. So what if he doesnt pay, with all these temptations it would only take seconds to sign up and start into more danger. He apologized for worrying me and said that he wont return to that site or others like it. He said that I can check it anytime and any other site he visits.
This is the only access to a computer that he has except interoffice email at work, but no internet.
I feel better. He is always really angry and defensive when he is trying to hide something. He wasnt that way at all. In fact, he seemed like he really didnt care about the site at all. It was just something to read and look at.
I know I probably sound naive, so kick me in the a$$ if you feel the need. I can always use different perspectives.

Tryin you are no different from any woman here. I'd be furious and frantic also! My H doesn't know 1 thing about computers. I don't have to worry about that at least!<p>The fact that he wasn't angry means a lot.<p>Peace and prayers and I'm happy it turned out good!
love
Debi