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Hi all,
I wanted to let you all know that I have just gotten my formal acceptance into Widener School of Law! Plus, I have gotten a Dixon scholarship which will pay for 30% of my tuition and fees. The rest I will have to get student loans for. I have NO idea how I am going to support myself and my kids and attend school full time, so along with being very excited I am very scared. This will be my first time living in a new place by myself. My dad is taking me to Harrisburg this week to look for apartments.
As to my h, we are still separated. he is very, very upset that I am not taking him along when I move for law school, but I just am not at a point in my life where I want to take that kind of risk. I am not sure what happened to us, but I don't feel like I can expose myself to the possibility of abuse anymore, and even last night, when I found out I got accepted, he blew up at me. He was there to bring our boys back to me after having them for the weekend, and he got angry and threw my duffel bag at me. I know that he feels like I am abandoning him for a new life, but I tried for so long to make this work, and I just won't live with a man that I can't trust not to hurt me. H did attend counseling for a while, but as soon as the counselor told him to do things he didn't want to do, he quit. I don't know.
But, I am very happy with my new life. It's harder than I thought it would be, but it's also wonderful to be making it on my own.
I will try to update more extensively when I get a minutes, but thank you to all those who asked about me or thought about me during these months when I have just been a lurker.
Mark my words - I am going to change the child support laws someday.
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Oh, girl, I'm afraid of you! Nosetta, you're gonna do great. Congratulations on being accepted to law school. It's such a wonderful and uplifting accomplishment for you. I have no doubt that you will find a way to make through. Someone of your character and spirit is destined to do well.
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cd...
Talk about Pioneer Spirit and forging the way and being an example....wow. You da woman!!!
When so many in our position tend to get more insecure and "clingy", you go the other route and aspire to something greater. You make me think (and probably many others here) that the possibilities are endless if we have the courage to explore them...and then take action instead of just talking about it, as I am guilty of.
And, cd...we are all going to hold you to your promise of changing the child support laws in this country...I KNOW if anyone can do this, you can and will. God bless, cd...and God speed on your journey toward excellence and fulfilment. You truly are an inspiration.
Love
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Congrats on your acceptance into Law school. I'm okay with my child support laws, but I won't argue with any improvments.
Personally, I think OP should be held accountable for their actions, so I'm infavor of BS being able to seek some sort of retribution. (Maybe I'm wrong, but if they knew that they could be held accountable for their action, maybe more will say no, WS cannot be WS without cooperation of OP's). (I also think that WS should have to undergo mandatory counseling and parenting counseling if children are involved). (I know, I'm a bit excessive)
Congrats again. Study hard. It will pay off in the end.
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WOW CD! I know that you are the person to affect changes in these unfair CS laws! According to another poster, there have been some changes in a couple states, but not enough to be fair to all those out there that have been "raped" by the system! I know that you can do it, and let God help with how you are going to make it with the boys and school full time! He will provide for you!
I am sorry that your H is still having a hard time accepting what he has done, and how it has affected you and the boys! I am glad that you are not taking him with you on the move. He just needs to get a grip, and face the fact that it was his own actions that has put him in the possition he now finds himself!
I will continue to pray for you and the boys!
Love,
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Congratulations CD !!!!!!!!!!!!
I think its great.
Can I go ahead and put you on retainer now ?
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Oh ditto the retainer! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> What do you charge? Go, CD!! God bless you for not letting the fear win,and for keeping your wits about you! Prayers, J in recovery 4 years and glad I stayed <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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cd I think thats fabulous. I know you tried everything to make things better.
I think you are a super woman who has her head on straight.
I'm happy for the update from another "oldie".
Your life has come full circle now, and you are at the top.
Congratulations, cd!
love
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CD,you deserve to go to law school. You have much courage and intelligence. Use it wisely there.
I am very happy for you. I hope your new life with children in Harrisburg goes well. How far away will that be from where you are now?
How is H doing on separated status? How are your boys doing? Is OC now not being seen by him?
You go girl.Good luck.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Mark my words - I am going to change the child support laws someday. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YOU GO GIRL!!!!!! I look forward to backing you up 100% on this issue. I see both sides of CS issues, especially since my ex-hubby got away with owing me thousands and with our current situation with our OC and the courts gouging my H....there has to be some changes in the way the current system is running. I'm happy and excited for you and know that you will go through all this with great grades, great happiness, and a great future awaiting you.... Keep us posted! Hugs, Twiisty <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Hmmm... It's really too bad that your H cannot be more supportive of you and instead continuing to be a source of your unhappiness, still, this new chapter is opening to you a new life filled with new opportunities! Fear not! God will provide! It's great that you have other family members who are supportive of you. You can't lose! Who knows? Perhaps your H will have a change of heart and continue with the counseling he (probably knows he) needs while you are gone and change himself for the better. Maybe he is just frustrated that he can't control you any more... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Good for you! Congratulations! I wish you all God's best! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Horray for you CD. I believe that women who share our name will always rise to the top. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Dear cd,
What wonderful news! It will be formidable for a while but you have the brain, you have the drive and you are going to make one terrific lawyer!
Widener is an EXCELLENT school. Who knows -- maybe we can be in practice together one day?!
I am soooo happy for you. Keep reaching for your dreams and being happy.
love,
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