This is off topic but I was wondering if anybody knew anything about grandparent rights? If something were to happen to me my son would go to his father. I'm just curious if anybody knows if I could put something in my will that I wanted my parents to be in my sons life. Have some sort of visitation. I don't see my sons father cutting them out of his life but you can't predict the future. Would it do any good? I have been having a hard time finding info on this subject on the internet.

Tiffany

Some states have grandparents rights some dont, Just depends on where you live, Just get a attorney and see what you can work out among you and the father.

Thats your best bet.
I have an aggreement with om that we both hand wrote and had notorized together and we both have copies in case we have a falling out or something happens to one of us.

Hi, you two bring up a good point, and something that I've asked questions about in my own situation. My WW and I are working things out, but I had a lot of questions about rights of the OM. I can't stomach the thought of him having any rights in MY family (WW and I have agreed to raise the OC as our own together). Now, as I've mentioned in other postings, WW and I are both military, and adultery still does carry some punishment, though not much these days. Anyway, the JAG lawyers told me that 49 out of 50 states have a law stating that any child born to a married couple is presumed to be the offspring of that couple.

That means that in order for the OM to have any rights at all, he must submit legal paperwork, and openly admit to the A. I thought that was great, because for once, I as the H actually had some rights in my own M!

When D-Day hit, the OM asked my WW what he should tell his parents about having a child they could never see. I personally told him a better question to ask is what his parents would say if they knew that they had a grandchild out there they would never see because their son knocked up someone else's wife while he was off in the Middle East!

Anyway, as far as my WW and I are concerned, OM is permanently out of our lives, and this is OUR child. It's taken me a while to separate the OC from the OM, but it's coming along slowly.

Are there any legal issues that I still need to worry about? I want to make sure that there is no way the OM or anyone in his family can touch my family; I won't stand for it at all. Thank you.

You may want to dig deeper on this. My head feels kind of fuzzy right now, but if I can recall correctly, there was a ruling on the federal level on this. It was about 2 years ago. Basically, the federal supreme court upheld the parents right to decide who they wanted around their children. This included grandparents. There used to be quite a bit of litigation for grandparent’s visitation. The court’s premise was that the parents decisions are based on doing what is in the best interest of their children. Although there was state law regarding grandparent’s rights, the federal ruling would supercede anything on the state level.