Hi, you two bring up a good point, and something that I've asked questions about in my own situation. My WW and I are working things out, but I had a lot of questions about rights of the OM. I can't stomach the thought of him having any rights in MY family (WW and I have agreed to raise the OC as our own together). Now, as I've mentioned in other postings, WW and I are both military, and adultery still does carry some punishment, though not much these days. Anyway, the JAG lawyers told me that 49 out of 50 states have a law stating that any child born to a married couple is presumed to be the offspring of that couple.
That means that in order for the OM to have any rights at all, he must submit legal paperwork, and openly admit to the A. I thought that was great, because for once, I as the H actually had some rights in my own M!
When D-Day hit, the OM asked my WW what he should tell his parents about having a child they could never see. I personally told him a better question to ask is what his parents would say if they knew that they had a grandchild out there they would never see because their son knocked up someone else's wife while he was off in the Middle East!
Anyway, as far as my WW and I are concerned, OM is permanently out of our lives, and this is OUR child. It's taken me a while to separate the OC from the OM, but it's coming along slowly.
Are there any legal issues that I still need to worry about? I want to make sure that there is no way the OM or anyone in his family can touch my family; I won't stand for it at all. Thank you.