Hmmm I’ll start with the good stuff first. My parent gave H and me a 10th Anniversary party Sat 8/10, which was also my 30th B-day. Man I can’t believe I’m 30. The party went great lasted until 1:30 a.m. in the morning. We had a ball! Anyway I went to get my eyebrows done I’m in there no more than 20 to 30 minutes. I get out side and as I’m walking up to my car I see this huge dent on the rear panel as I get closer to my car I see 4 to 5 foot prints I mean actual foot prints! You can see the sneaker/sandal print it’s about my size maybe a little smaller but definitely a female print. I can’t believe exOW saw me there or followed me there. I talked to my Brothers GF she's on vacation in Florida. She asked me were you at *** nails I said yes she said you know she goes there I saw her there and over heard her conversation re: H. I can’t believe this crap I haven’t fixed the scratches in the car! This is the third time she vandalized my car! I have taken the high road and I’m trying hard not to stoop to her level! Just because she found out we were celebrating our 10th Anniversary doesn’t mean she had to get all ghetto. I had my God sister laughing I said Darn I had a piece today he was good but not all that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I don’t understand why she’s flipping out. I won’t even get into the fact that the mutual friend that just found out about OC was at our party didn’t say congrats and was eyeing my H and D the entire night. My D was having a daddy’s night she didn’t want me and everyone was commenting on how close her and my H were. It was cute to me my D had her legs around H neck but she was facing him and she does this thing pulling his ears and leaning back. They have the same face and smile so it’s cute to see a father and D enjoy each other everyone at the party commented on their relationship. H and I had the time of our lives. He looked at the dent and foot prints and did his best to ignore them. So I TRIED to do the same. BTDT I think she must be following me. How in the world would she show up at the Nail Salon! Closer relatives think she’s stalking me because she just happened to drive by our house at 11:45 p.m. right before midnight! For what and why slow down! I’m sick of dealing with a crazy deranged person! I’m trying not to LB but darn!!!!!!!!!

Unsure

<small>[ August 12, 2002, 03:04 AM: Message edited by: UNSure919400 ]</small>

HAPPY BIRTHDAY and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, you're right, I DON'T believe it and guess what?! We have the same birthday--only I WISH I was 30 again! I turned 41 on Saturday...

I'm speechless. xOW is being ridiculous, no--outrageous!!! I'm amazed that you were able to enjoy your H without LBing all over the place... It all points back to him and his decision to get this person involved in your lives. I find it difficult to believe that no one saw her do this.

Isn't that interesting (and sad) how we make selfish and snap decisions not realizing how it will affect so many around us??? Wow... I'm sorry this happened. God did not endorse nor induce this upon you. I would encourage you to keep strengthening your life, keep moving toward God's purpose, keep believing. This might be the turning point to a real miracle for you and your family. Praise God that cars are replaceable, but your H is not and he's all yours... ((((HUGS))))

BTDT,

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Pray and thank God you made it to 41 so many people don't.

Yes, it was hard not to LB with H but I wanted to enjoy the party I was surrounded by family members and friends who love and support us being together.

But Sunday when I woke up all the anger I was trying to hold off came crashing on me. I keep praying and asking God to remove this burden. At first I was just going to stay home and not attend my religious meeting but I got up and got dressed and it worth it I felt better and uplifted.

H was being really loving and affectionate all day yesterday so it was hard to be a B---- and burst his bubble. When I started feeling overwhelmed I went for a ride to NYC my Sis and God Sister were with me. It was nice to just shoot the breeze and enjoy the ride. I keep thinking about the fact that one snap decision changed our lives forever. I keep wondering why she's willing to risk getting caught I mean it was broad day light. If someone saw something they didn't say anything and believe me I looked around. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I keep trying to remember that our car is something replaceable but to have someone intentionally destroy something of yours for no reason is a hard pill to swallow. Thank you as always for your support.

Tee

<small>[ August 12, 2002, 09:34 AM: Message edited by: UNSure919400 ]</small>

Unsure, I am so sorry to hear about your recent situation.

Why don't you file a police report?

I have learned that people will change the way they do things when faced with jail time. My OW e-mailed be at work and I called her and left a message informing her that sending hateful e-mail was a federal crime. She never e-mailed me again.

Hello,
Did you file a police report? If she is stalking you I would file a police report next time.

Congrads on your birthday and annveristy. My H also has the same birthday has yours.

Today is our 7th annversity!

Dawn

LP,

I went to the police the first two times and they said, "Unless I see her or someone witnessed her there was noting I could do." I can't prove it's her the only reason I knew she drove by our house the night of the party was because one of my cousins saw her. So to me it confirms she's driving by our house and they way our drive way is she could sneak down it. I just installed a bunch of motion lights I didn't feel safe knowing someone could just walk up to my house and do whatever damage they wanted to do. Thanks for the advice.

Unsure

Dawn,

Wow August 10 is popular B-day. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Congrats on your Anniversary!

I very rarely see exOW. After the last incident last month after I calmed down I passed her and she hit her breaks and stopped but I kept going. If I saw her following me or something then I could press harassment charges against her. One of my cousins did she went through the same drama with her. She started going out with exOW exBF this was about a year before my D-day and she used to follow them to the movies wait outside saying she loved him etc... I think she got in trouble so she now knows what not to do. I didn't know about any of this until my cousin found out who exOW was she told me the story and told me to be careful because she was crazy. Thanks for your support.

Unsure

<small>[ August 12, 2002, 10:30 AM: Message edited by: UNSure919400 ]</small>

Well I wonder if you could you set up a hidden camera in your car somehow... Many criminals get caught this way and it's hilarious watching them get confronted about it on TV as they lie and deny it until they see the video of themselves in action... DOH! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I don't know how to go about it, but I'm sure there are companies out there who could help you, heck, the police or even a PI might be able to give you some creative ideas???? She must be caught so you can press charges for once and for all. I hate it when it seems like the police can't or won't do anything to help. I bet if it were their close friend or relative, they would do something--anything??!!?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

And you are so right, I'm truly grateful for my life. I didn't mean to sound ungrateful in any way. God is so good. I had a grrrreat birthday. YOU DID TOO! The enemy just tried to spoil it but you hang in there. You will get the last laugh, I'm sure... If God be for you, who can be against you??????

When I was 30, I was in the best physical shape of my life--that's what was on my mind when I said, OH to be 30 again!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> But I'm working on it... Will be getting off this killer night shift soon and back to somewhat of a "normal" life again and able to work out more (due to having more energy)...

UNSure, your journey of forgiveness for your H will be a moment by moment deal. Praise God that He is in the business of right here, right now. ("Now faith is...") OW will get hers--she already planted her seeds for her harvest = destruction. Try to forgive her too again. This will unlock the storehouse of YOUR blessings. Don't let her antics plug up the channel of God's blessings that are flowing down to you & yours. I know it's hard because you go out the door and see the damage to your car every day and you think about it while you are driving. UGH! If you are like me, I notice every minor scrape, let alone some deliberate act of vandalism.

Just use it as a prompt to praise God for your restored marriage, for your repentant former WS, for God's provision for your new car that maybe xOW won't recognize until the alarms go off and her face is being videotaped. I'm praying for you! (((((HUGS))))

<small>[ August 13, 2002, 03:19 AM: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</small>

IDEA-
A nearby business might have had a camera aimed toward your car. My husband's business had a break in about a year ago. The bank that was down the street caught the burglar on its drive-thru camera. Government buildings or others may have caught ol nasty in the act. Even some fast food restuarants have them. Good luck.

BTDT- I was only joking about the age thing and thanking God just teasing you about being 41. Not that that's old heck I'm now 30 no more joking or kidding for me my siblings call me an old lady now, they are all younger than me of course. I feel the same I think being old is a state of mind you’re as young as you want to be mentally anyway. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'm not feeling as bad as I was I'm glad we (exOW and I) barley run into each other. Her mother lives right around the corner from us. I think I'm going to try your camera thing Z was giving me some advice and pointers behind the scene. You are right about getting in my car and knowing it has scratches and now a dent. My H just asked me why I haven't taken the car to the car wash I just don't feel like it. It's like for what at least the dirt hides the scratches and dent. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm going to take it today he practically begged me this morning on his way to work. I told him I would so I'll do it. But he doesn't know why I don't feel like taking it.

Things on the home front of been good. Actually great we've been getting along well! So I think me not going to her house knocking on her door and pulling her out by her hair might have allowed some blessing to still flow my way. LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

In our Anniversary card he wrote, "To some 10 years is a milestone. To me it's a stepping stone because my love for you is infinite." Wasn't that sweet caused me to melt and cry at the same time? I started my bible reading again I had slacked down and was getting a little depressed about the vandalism from last month but I refused to sulk for a month this month. I almost didn't enjoy my Anniversary which is really 7/16 because of me being upset with H. We are supposed to go away to DC for the weekend next week I'm going to go and enjoy myself. Just me and him no kids. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The police don’t seem to care heck they let her get away with forging my H name on the Acknowledgement of Paternity form because the DNA test came back positive. And it's a Felony to forge a government document. Oh well she'll reap what she's sowing!

Ammiee,

Thank you for your suggestion. I edited my post becasue I took your idea the wrong way the first time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm going to check with all the stores in the shopping plaza it's about 7 or 8 of them. Hopefully one will have a camera pointing at the lot. I'm also going to check with the poperty management company to see if they have camera's pointing at the lot. Man wouldn't it be great to finally catch her behind in the act I'm so sick of the crap. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thank you both for your support. And I'll let you guys know what I find out.

Unsure

<small>[ August 13, 2002, 02:37 PM: Message edited by: UNSure919400 ]</small>