Okay in my marriage I'm the one that likes sex more. My husband is always too tired and when we do have sex he comes like in 3 minutes. I tell him to try to concentrate and I have told him that he has not satisfied me and I feel upset and angry and frustarated.... He tells me that he doesn't know how to concentrate... and then I find my self thinking and dreaming about other guys and I feel so guilty : ( I feel like giving up... I don't know what to do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Help him figure out a way to concentrate. He can do it with your help. I'm in your shoes though, my W doesn't have the drive for sex like I do. So when she does feel like doing it, I feel like I could explode. But no way am I letting that happen if I had to wait a long time I'm going to make it last a while and savor it. LOL
Anyway there's different methods that can be used to prolong erection or stamina. Try going to the adult bookstore and check out a book titled -Joy of sex. Also masturbation can increase his staying power.

Tell him that your thinking about other guys, I bet you he tries harder the next time.

<small>[ March 01, 2005, 03:35 PM: Message edited by: pledger ]</small>

Ok - here's a guys perspective... First, wow! It's hard for me to believe his drive is so low, but maybe there are other factors that are impacting it.. and also the performance side of things too... Has he seen his doctor lately?? My wife and I are now separated, but we have had the occasion of "being together" sexually every now and then.. and I also have had performance issues at times.. I thought, maybe ERD, but my doctor said no - it was STRESS. He did check my Testosterone levels, but they were within the normal limits.. He said stress, sickness, weight changes and low water intake are among the things that can hamper this area. I will tell you, it is very embarassing for the guy to not be "all that he can be".. and once you do not "perform" up to parr once, then there is a pressure the following times to do better... This added pressure is not helpful. I don't know about the telling him about the guys you're thinking about issue... I would think that would hurt the situation even more... Build him up.. Let him know you don't want to think about anyone else.. If he wants to satisfy you, then there are many ways he can improve his "response time" and both of your levels of enjoyment. I'm sorry you have this problem, but I must say I'm jealous of your situation, or should I say - his situation.. Good luck.