No harm done at all, BTDT. I always enjoy your POV. All threads have the talent for going their own way and morphing onto some other topic so I rarely have a problem with topics that sedgway into other topics. Besides, mission accomplished....Mshermi was looking for her mystery lady and found her (Babstr) and Babstr got her incredibly valuable information...makes me wish I lived in Illinois.

As long as we are chatting, I just want to tell you how invaluable you are to this site. Your perspective has taught me a lot about OC situations and happy endings. It gives me hope that someday the OC in my life will grown up whole and happy and eventually have a mother worthy of her, if not already.

This week was sighted to be my most difficult week of the year, but instead it had been the biggest blessing and I am not sure why. I haven't even prayed on it, have not turned to God at all staying in the mortal world where mistakes run rampant, yet, He has shown me incredible love and mercy and for some reason has seen what is in my heart and granted me peace. I feel so incredibly lucky and blessed today which is such an irony.

Despite the chronic heartburn on this site and the difficulty we have communicating with other members at times, I sincerely wish with all my heart that all of you feel as I do today, and that this holiday season marks new beginnings for all of us in our marriages. Those who are having difficulty, may they find solutions, those whose spouses are in turmoil and not in the home, may God open their eyes and soften their hearts.

Catnip =^^=

Hi guys! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
& I have to agree with you catnip it HAS been a rough week and it seems like we are not alone! I have relatives "going through it" too. I guess we can be thankful that it has not been worse... Maybe it's a distraction to get us off of focusing on our true blessings! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

One example, my OC is now 20 and sprouting wings to fly. Has found a place with some roommates and will be moving in this Saturday! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I know OC's grown and it's time for me to let go, still, it's rough... OC is not leaving on a bad note--just very independent and ready to move forward in maturity. If I had it my way, OC would be home until OC decided to marry--which means forever if OC decides to remain single! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I guess mommie can't "protect" him forever! Even tho that's a crock! It still feels that way when all the kids are all tucked in their warm beds in their rooms at night...

*sigh*

I know OC will make it! Just have to keep telling myself that God loves OCs MORE than we do! God can and will take care of His own! WS/BS's with no OC contact should never ever feel guilty for their decision to preserve their marriages--just my opinion. My OC is proof that if God will do it for one, He will take care of every one. God is so good!