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Joshmom... I never thought you would go as far as calling BS that name. That's an abnormal name for an abnormal thing.

The word troll, was some kind of beast if I can remember correctly something abnormal I'm just curious.

Something just isn't right anymore about MB i'm feeling this very strong.

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Please let it go, MALC...who cares? Let's not start anything, OK?

They call us Trolls and say that MB is a cult, which I think is kind of cute and funny and it doesn't bother me a bit. Please don't let it bother you.

We have bigger fish to fry right now than getting into a pissing match with anyone from GB.

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I don't call MB'ers Trolls. I call the people that come to the boards and start fights, just like what has apparently been going on all weekend, trolls. I would call anyone a troll that came and started stuff - be it someone from MB or another OW. And I don't call MB a cult. I have a lot of reading to do - my hard drive crashed over the weekend and I'm still not up and running. I'm furious that ANYONE would say anything about Twiisty OR her situation, and will look into that. I'm sorry that this has elevated as much as it has, and I wasn't able to nip it all in the bud earlier.

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Dear Malc,

Joshmom tried to explain it, but there is a poster at TOW that gave a bit more detail.

Apparently "troll" has nothing to do with the little ugly creatures from fairy tales. If I can remember it all correctly, the term comes from fishing when fishermen would "troll" the waters looking for fish.

It evolved to mean a person who travels the internet to different boards and places where they don't belong to start fights.

So, if members of TOW posted here just to get people upset and to start fights, they would be "trolls" on MB.

So, you don't have to feel insulted. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

love,
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Hello. I'm the person who made the post that heavenlybody is referring to (and let me add a thank you to heavenlybody for trying to clear this up). I'm normally chudP over on TOW, and I come here in peace. I'm using an old account that I registered with back when I was going to post a question for a friend elsewhere on MB. I only came wandering over here because of heavenlybody's very nice message posted over there. My stats are: I am not an OW, I have never had an affair, and I am married. But, I was originally born as an OC (although my parents did marry soon thereafter). I'll spare you the other details of how/why I actually landed at TOW, but that's why I sometimes hang out over there.

Heavenlybody hit it best with the word "evolve". Words evolve. Language evolves. Yes?

If you look up the word troll in a dictionary,
(here, try this link http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=troll )
you'll find a verb definition of "to fish by trailing a bait", and a noun definition of "nasty fairytale monster under a bridge".

Back in the internet's infancy ... back before the WWW had expanded much beyond government computers, and back before the average Joe had a "browser", the main public area of the internet was the newsgroups ... uunet groups. (Want to see them? Go to www.google.com and select "Groups".) Back then already, some people got a kick out of going into a group where they didn't normally belong, and posting messages just to cause a fight. They were "baiting" the regulars. "Fishing" for a fight. The verb definition of the word "troll" was put into play and used to apply to those people and what they were doing. They became some of the first internet "trolls".

Since then, people who try to "fish for a fight" (usually done in a hit-and-run style) anywhere on the internet are called "trolls".

Now the word "troll" has the misfortune of having multiple definitions. Correct? So, yes, it is true that as the years have gone by, some people have also incorporated the second meaning into this label ... that of "nasty monster".

BUT ... and this is a BIG BUT ... (and why I'm posting here in the first place) ... even with that usage of the word, the perpetrator is only being called a "nasty monster" BECAUSE HE IS PICKING FOR A FIGHT. In this way, the definition can be expanded to "troll = someone who is "trolling" or fishing for a "fight", OR a nasty monster who only comes out of his hiding place under the bridge IN ORDER TO PICK A FIGHT, then crawls right back under the bridge." Remember, trolling is traditionally done as hit-and-run ... or near-hit-and-run.

The point I'm trying to make is that when someone comes to the TOW board and purposefully posts something nasty just to start a fight, they are being called a "troll" NOT BECAUSE they may be a BW or from MB, but because they are trying to pick a fight.

BW does-NOT-equal "nasty monster under bridge". The insult is NOT being used to say that a BW is mean, or lives under a bridge, or has the wild neon-colored hair that those little naked plastic troll dolls have. A BW is NOT a troll JUST BECAUSE she is a BW.

However, someone who goes to another board JUST to start a fight ... whether they're a BW, or an OW, or the king-of-Siam ... IS a troll SIMPLY because they're trying to pick a fight ... and no matter which definition of the word troll you want to use: "fishing for a fight", or "monster who comes out from under the bridge to cause a fight, then quickly slinks back under".

Is this making sense? I sure hope so. It's late where I am.

The reason I posted what I did at TOW is because I was getting the impression (from a couple posts) that some people were under the impression that the attitude at work was that "all MB people, and all BWs, are nasty monsters under a bridge JUST BECAUSE they post at MB or are BWs". That is patently incorrect, and the word "troll" is *NOT* being used simply as an insult to any and all MB people or BWs. What it *IS*, is an insult to people who go looking for a fight on another board, whether that board be TOW, MB, or The-Joy-of-Cooking, and regardless of if the perpetrator is OW, BW, or king-of-Siam.

Finally, a reference for the internet word "troll":
http://www.advicemeant.com/flame/10define.shtml
If you want to see more, I suggest going to any of the main search engines ... www.yahoo.com ... www.google.com ... and do a search on combinations of these words: troll, internet, lingo, slang, definitions. Believe me, you'll find more than you'll ever want to read, because this truly is nothing more than internet lingo.

Thank you for hearing me out, I hope this is clearing some things up, it's been a pleasure meeting you heavenlybody, and I bid you all a peaceful adieu.

chudP (friendofk is old account I never used)

editing because I'm just full of typos tonight.

editing once more to add this:
When heavenlybody says this:
>So, if members of TOW posted here just to get people upset and to start fights, they would be "trolls" on MB.

She is exactly right. "Troll" has nothing to do with who you are, it has to do with what you do on the internet (ie. pick fights where you don't belong). And to anyone who originally thought that Joshmom was using the word "troll" as merely an insult against ALL MBers ... please go back up and REREAD her response again, this time using the correct definition of the word.

<small>[ December 11, 2002, 11:17 PM: Message edited by: friendofk ]</small>

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Hey!!! Are you the creep that said I was a martyr? ....Hahaha

Hi, Friendofk

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by friendofk:
[QB] "Troll" has nothing to do with who you are, it has to do with what you do on the internet (ie. pick fights where you don't belong).QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I did not know that! Thanks for the education. I personally didn't take anything personally (except that martyr thing <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) and figured it's your site and you can describe what you want how you want.

Happy holidays

Catnip =^^=

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Yep, that would be me.
Now, for those who don't lurk over there, I guess I better clarify this one too.

I did not call catnip a martyr BECAUSE she is a BW or an MBer. My statement had NOTHING TO DO with her BW status. I was instead referring to what I perceived as a repeated, inaccurate claim of injustice regarding the troll word (no matter how you define the word). She was implying repeatedly that "TOWers think that MBers are trolls". (In fact, you'll note, that I even went out of my way to point out that her post there was *not* a troll.) What I said was:

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People who visit other sites to cause trouble ARE BY DEFINITION trolls. (No, I'm certainly not saying that your post was trying to cause trouble. Your post was not IMHO a troll. But I do find it interesting that you love claiming that everyone calls MBers "trolls". A troll is anyone, be they BW, OW, or the King of Siam, who goes to another site to cause a fight. And I don't know of anyone who has accused all MBers of being "people who go to other sites to cause a fight". So the little martyr act of "they all call us MBers trolls, they all call us MBers trolls" is about as inaccurate as it comes.)
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This was in the middle of a post where I was pointing out what a troll really is. (Please feel free to go read it if anyone doubts me. Post it all here if you want, I just didn't see the point in taking up more space.) It was in RESPONSE to a post where she herself referred to herself and the MBers as "trolls" three times, thus implying that "TOWers think that MBers are trolls". *That* is the only reason I used the phrase "martyr act" ... because she *seemed* to be implying/claiming that:

Either:
A. everyone at TOW thought everyone at MB was a little monster under a bridge.
OR
B. everyone at TOW thought everyone at MB was "fishing for a fight at TOW".

BOTH are completely untrue assumptions. (No, all TOW people do not as a whole think that all MBers in general are picking for a fight, and no, all TOW people do not as a whole think that all MBers are monsters under bridges.) Given that, it struck me as false claims of injustice, no matter how you take the word "troll". And *that* is why I used the phrase "martyr act".

Happy all? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Happy holidays to all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

chudP (OW no, BW no, had affair no, W yes, OC yes (although parents eventually married))
(And who honestly thought "troll" was better well-known. I first got on the internet in the early nineties when I first went to graduate school ... back when the uunet groups were still the big thing. Yikes. Maybe *I've* been on too long.)

<small>[ December 12, 2002, 10:20 AM: Message edited by: friendofk ]</small>

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Being a Norwegian I can help you with the terminology: "Troll" is a creature from Norwegian folklore. They are giants, with little intelligence. They are dangerous but the hero of the fairytale always survives by being more clever.
Trolls are turned into stone by sunlight. Readers of Tolkien ("The hobit") will see that he knows the Norwegian folklore well. Also in Harry Potter you will meet trolls more or less correctly described.

In fishing you have the words "trawl" and "trawling" which indicates nets towed behind ocean going fishing boats "trawlers".

I have never posted here before. I am a member, and have been reading this forum for more then a year now. I have learned a lot from you all. Thank you very much. I am inspired to work on my marriage.

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>Being a Norwegian I can help you with the terminology: "Troll" is a creature from Norwegian folklore.

Thank you Frank. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I do like learning where the mythologies come from. I probably would have guessed Germanic, but I never would have been able to narrow it to Norwegian.

>They are giants, with little intelligence.

Wow ... apparently by the time it's filtered into American culture, it's been altered. When I was a kid and hearing about monsters etc., I had been told they were small ... like elves. Maybe it's because of the "billy goat gruff" children's story?

>Readers of Tolkien ("The hobit") will see that he knows the Norwegian folklore well.

Now that I do recognize ... there's a troll character in Lord of the Rings, and my hubby is practically counting the minutes until the next installment of Lord of the Rings opens.

>In fishing you have the words "trawl" and "trawling" which indicates nets towed behind ocean going fishing boats "trawlers".

And here is where the English language (or American at least) is changing and expanding. The word "troll" is recognized as meaning the same thing. If you look up "troll" on www.dictionary.com, the very first definition you get is:

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To fish for by trailing a baited line from behind a slowly moving boat.
To fish in by trailing a baited line: troll the lake for bass.
To trail (a baited line) in fishing.
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Thank you Frank. Even though I'm only visiting at the moment, I've learned something too, and something that I'm going to pass along to hubby ... the true "hobit" fan in the family. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Sorry for taking so long to respond, As I thought Troll meant to be interpreted as some kind of monster. Thanks for all the interpretations.

Have a Merry Christmas


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