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#818649 01/11/03 10:52 AM
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You know,
To have a child outside of the marriage is really a B**** to deal with. But i have another aspect that is just as bad. My H and his extracurricular activity conceived a child together but the OW did not go through with having the child. Though I do not have to live with seeing and adjusting to a child that is not mine but my husband's, the fact remains that it almost happened. It's terrrible to know either way. Strength to all who ahve to deal with these issues. I believe we will all gain strength in the end!

#818650 01/11/03 11:28 AM
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It sucks no matter what side of the fence you are on....many different sides with many different issues.

I had a miscarriage in between my two children and my H's ex-ow laughed about it. She cried again when she found out I was pg with my son and then decided to call me with the "good news" when my son was barely two weeks old and I was post-partum.....

Like I said before, it stinks no matter what side you are on. Pain is pain.

Twiisty

#818651 01/12/03 06:20 PM
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Cry Baby,

My H's OW also aborted their child and it is something I deal with every day. The baby would hae been born very recently so there is a lot of gloom in my heart.

I struggle with the relief that I feel that you and I don't have to deal with this in the flesh. I am relieved, yes, but an innocent life was lost in giving my that relief. That really hurts.

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Snowbelle,

The crazy thing about the situation is that during his affair that i was not aware of, We had our second child. The OW didn't even know about him. My H has his named tatooed on his arm. I asked her how she never saw it. She told me that he always had a bandage on his arm to cover the rash from the skin cancer he had>!@##$$% I informed her that he in fact did not have skin cancer or a rash, but my son's name beneath the bandage. I must say, I enjoyed making her feel a little low. That doesn't change the feeling I have about being cheated on though... Time will heal, hopefully soon!


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