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First time in this website... geez wish I would have discovered this a year ago. Not sure of all the lingo. H had on/off affair for 3 1/2 years with co-worker, o/c now 16 mos. Just found out last February/2002 - complete shock. Have 2 children of our own, 5 & 2. H very remorsefull, humble for first few months as we went to intensive counselling, no contact with o/w or o/c since child support has been established. o/w lives blocks from our home, have run into her last spring, saw o/c - very painful. I am a christian lady, husband is not. He will not open up to God, works away from home often, suffers from depression. How can accountability even happen if he is away from home for days at a time? That's how he got into this mess. I'm so ready to end the relationship, I feel like I've endured enough. He is extremely proud and feels like I should be over this by now.... help!!
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Jillian our ow is blocks away also. No contact here.
It's been since 2000...oc is about 22 mos old .
No contact. Ow in your case ...has she sent paternity papers?
Read all about POJA and honesty and everything else on this site.
You sound young and you can make it IF H is ready.
Do you believe him?
My H is recently depressed over being 50 and CS!!!
Hope you can talk openly and H is not lying....
love
Debi
<small>[ January 20, 2003, 09:52 PM: Message edited by: gemini1 ]</small>
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Hi Jillian8,
I just found out on 12/17/02 that my h had a ONS(one night stand)in feb.2000 that produced oc.
I am also a christian lady, and my h goes to church with me, in fact he join church in feb. 2001. I also feel the pain that you are going through, because I feel the same.
Don't make any decisions to quickly about your marriage. My h also does not want me to talk about it. I know that it hurts him to see me in so much pain. He has told me over and over that he is very sorry.
I know that God wants us to forgive, but I am just so very hurt right now. I ask God to give me the courage to forgive him and that ow, but I will never be able to forget.
Hope to talk to you again, and you are in my prayers.
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