<BR>Two nights ago, I called out to my husband to check on our 8 month old baby. After the second time I shouted out to him, he emerged from my sister's bedroon (she's visiting with us). He claimed there was a big fly in her room which she asked him to help kill. THe house was totally quiet prior to me calling out. Afterwards I started hearing my sister making swatting noises. My gut feeling told me it was all a lie. Yesterday, everyone acted like 'normal'. But I was dying inside. By this morning, I could not pretend anymore. I confronted my husband without referring to that night - I basically told him that I feel like I am losing him and that he does not care so much for me anymore and that if he gave me half the attention he gave people including my sister that I would definitely be a happier person. At that he exploded and told me I was 'bad'. He practically called me sick for thinking of him and my sister that way. Mind you, I never mentioned the other night and he made comments about me linking him and my sister romantically. At that point I blew my top and he left the house. When my sister came back I picked a fight without mentioning the other night or my husband. She blew up and said how my insecurity was driving me to paranoia and how she was my sister. What did I say?. At this point I knew there was something. <BR>I let my anger and frustration set in. I kicked my husband out this evening. I also asked my sister to leave. Her reaction confirmed my fear. If she were innocent she would have reacted differently.<BR> <BR>I am clutching on to straws and unable to face the possible truth that even MY husband who swore he takes his vows seriously could do this?<BR> <BR>I'll appreciate the benefit of your exerience.<BR> <BR>Regards,<BR>Ada

Dear Ada,<P>Why don't you post at General Questions II under Infidelity, we have more posters there to help you. I have never visited this forum until now and it seems that very few people ever come here looking at the dates and posters over one year.<P>I am not sure how you have arrived at this conclusion. Did you have suspicions before about your H and your sister? <P>Please do not make any major decisions and go for counselling or post at GQII to get some stuff off your chest and to learn from others. <P>God bless you<BR>take care<BR>weep

Trust your instincts they are usually right.