Speaking with a close friend last night has me a bit more worried than ever.

The doctor's took my WW off of birthcontrol back in December. She's suffered migranes for years, and the doctor started to think her BC may have been the cause, so he told her to quit taking them (It did seem to help the migranes). But, 2 months later my wife moves out, then in with OM (first I ever learned of her A).

My friend says one of his co-workers was in a similar situation. His WW got pregnant while with the OM, and took her husband to court for child support!!!!! Since there was no legal separation, the BH is now paying $500 a month in child support to his WW (now XW) for the child she had with her OM!!!!!!!!!

Could this happen to me? I want to try and work things out, and don't want to do anything that would risk our chances, but if she does get pregnant with OM baby, it seems she could do the same thing and make ME pay for it?!?!?

The law is just really screwed up these days.. It seems a legal separation would only reduce the chances of us getting back together. But, after hearing about this guys story, I feel worried for my own security... Any opinions?

well in this state we dont have legal seperation, you are married or not.
just call a lawyer, perhaps you can contest paternity if you divorce, I think you should do nothing till you have spoke with someone.
If your working on your marriage, I think you should seek counseling and try a different approach.
someone will come along and give better advice I am sure

JohnnyB,

I would contact a lawyer about contesting paternity! It doesn't mean that you have to seperate, file for a divorce, just that you are covering the bases! I wish that I have some other advice for you. In our situation, my H chose to accept the baby as ours, as we had already decided to stay married, and work our problems out, and xOM was completely out of the picture! But, I do believe that you can contest paternity if you're still married when the child is born. If she does turn up P, even if you are seperated, they can still say it's your's unless you contest it! Check it out, get some legal help with this, cover you bases, and then she can't get you for CS when it's not your child.(and I do realize that as far as you know, she's not expecting at this time, I'm talking as if she were)

Hope I helped,

Tigger

**edited for typos**

<small>[ February 27, 2003, 01:15 PM: Message edited by: tigger4jdt ]</small>