I'm an oldie. A WS with an OC. I haven't posted in a long time or even lurked. I can tell you though that recovery has a lot to do with the BS as well as the WS. I came right out and told my H that had he been the one who had an affair and got another woman pregnant that I doubted very much that I would still be with him. He told me he knew that. I can admit that I am nowhere near the person that my H is. I am very lucky to have him. I don't think I could live with what he lives with, and that only makes me love and admire him more.