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Is is possible even though WS doesn't want a DNA test for someone else to get one? WS's parents do not like WS either. They do not trust her.
WS's dad wants to insist on a DNA test. Can this be done?
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There are "over the counter" DNA tests available somewhere...probably from testing labs.
From what I hear (and my information could be entirely wrong) you can get one of these tests and swab the inside of your husband's mouth against the cheek and do the same to the OC and run the test and it will tell you if it's a high probability or not. It is inadmissable in a court of law if it hasn't been actually done at a lab, but at least YOU would know with a high probability of whether or not OC is your H's.
The only thing you need (besides the testing supplies) is cooperation and opportunity.
Anyone with more informaiton want to wade in on this???
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As long as I knew that would be all I'd need. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> She's such a lier and even if it is his she's only using the child for her own selfishness. Was with so many other guys and never got pg., why now? She has done this twice to WS. Last time she misscarried and blamed me. She also has 2 kids of her own she can't take care of from her husband. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Cyn you can check out this site. www.paternityfraud.com The founder of the site may also talk to your H. Good Luck. Scroll down to bottom of page click on (how can you help?)Scroll again find Carnell Smith name get his phone number give him a call. He will be more than glad to assist you. Once again Good Luck <small>[ April 06, 2004, 12:09 AM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>
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Thanks so much for the info. I'm sure others could benefit as well in this situation. WS doesn't want to believe OW could be so vindictive but as you can see it happens all the time. Even if it is his he needs to see an attorney because who know what she'll do once he doesn't fit into her little plan anymore. She even said he'd never see his f***** kid again if he didn't do what she wanted. Isn't love grand.
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Hi Cyn.... I was wondering how are you? Did you check out the site?
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Yes I did. A lot of information. Thanks. If WS wasn't so far in the fog he'd demand a DNA test.
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Is is possible even though WS doesn't want a DNA test for someone else to get one?
Do you mean someone else wants to have one done for your husband?
I'm pretty sure that unless the mother or the presumed (accused?) father wants a test, there is not much that can be done.
They both agree it is his child, so what would the legal reason be for someone else wanting a test?
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Not everyone is convinced he is the father. His parents want to know for sure. They trust OW as much as I do (which is not at all). WS is so far in the fog he doesn't want to look like a fool. OW was with someone else on New Year's eve and lord knows who else and how often. OW wants a father for the 2 kids she already has and can't take care of and WS always wanted kids (we were trying until she came along). Just because WS is convinced the baby is his doesn't make it so. Remember, "Mamma's baby, Daddy's maybe," <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Cyn I understand your frustration trust me I've been in your shoes. Still until this day my ws has not yet gotten a DNA test. No one believe this child is his. I do know in some states there are mandatory DNA test, but the father can also waive his right to be tested. That's what my WS did, I just hope the fog lifts from your WS.
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Just because WS is convinced the baby is his doesn't make it so.
Agreed. But if he and the ow say it is his, not much you can do about it.
About the only way she would have to do a test is if another man said it was his child and he pressed the issue (for visitation or something). A DNA test could be ordered by the court.
His parents want to know for sure.
Just because they want to know for sure does not mean they have to do a test.
It's the same as if they wanted a DNA test for your kids. Ain't gonna happen if you don't want it.
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I don't know. OW is still leagally married. It would be great if DNA test was court ordered. I would think any man would want to know for sure. After all we are talking about 18 yrs. of support. Yeah, I know WS doesn't want to look like a fool, but in the long run he'll end up looking like a bigger fool. I don't know if I was so convinced he was the father and he was I'd want a test just to prove he was the father. I'd be proud.
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I would think any man would want to know for sure
He says he is the father and so does ow.
Why would he or ow want or need to prove it?Did he get DNA tests when his kids with you were born?
I don't know if I was so convinced he was the father and he was I'd want a test just to prove he was the father. I'd be proud.
Then you have had DNA tests done on your kids, correct?
You are convinced he is their father. Don't you want proof?
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Cyn,
I read where you and H lost a child 14 years ago. I am so sorry for that.
If you have hair from oc and your H you could pay a lab for his part of the DNA test. That is all you would need as you already know ow is Mom.
The test is costly but would put your and your in-laws mind to rest.
Your H seems to still be in a trance because of all that has happened. You both need time to digest it all especially you.
Instead of worrying about oc right now, focus on your marriage. Get some type of counseling together. Maybe your church can help?
Read all of the wonderful things that are available here. It is a big help.
Prayers to you.
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Cyn really there's nothing you can do when someone is in the fog, especially when there is deception involved. You just hope and pray the person comes out of the fog in time. Denial & guilt are motivating factor for some staying in the fog as long as they do. Just protect your family make sure you do the necessary things to take care of the needs of your BC first. Are you planning to work on your marriage? Beside H being in the fog does he want to work on the marriage?
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Gem you said something I wasn't aware of. All you need is hair sample to determine DNA?
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Yet another lawyer we asked said it's all that's needed Malc.
Why wouldn't that be enough? Interesting don't you think?
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Just some info, hair test, you have to have alot of hair. At least 1" x 4". I do know you can buy a test to test siblings. And all it is is a q-tip kind of test. You just suave the inside of the mouth and send it off. They can tell if the children are from the same dad/mom.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by sunnydale: <strong> Just some info, hair test, you have to have alot of hair. At least 1" x 4".</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Won't 1 inch by 4 inch patch of hair leave a BIG bald spot?!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
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I have no children. OW has cheated on WS and he knows it. Like I said, he doesn't want to look like a fool if the test shows he isn't the father. We were trying to work things out and that's when OW so conveniently got pregnant.
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