I am seeking some opinions on this matter.
My ex to be was ordered to come to the house at a certain time and leave at a certain time, along with that he calls numerous times throughtout the day.
I am currently staying at a family house and was told that he should come the time he suppose to and leave when he suppose to. He has been coming before his time and leaving after his time. I had placed him in the bedroom that I stay in with my child. The last time he was here of course he was early and of course he wasn't prepare to leave the time he was suppose to. When I entered the room I saw that he had a video camera. I asked him if he got permission. My reason for that was because I feel it was an invasion of privacy because that is where I sleep and it has my personal stuff, also the house is not mine. No one would have a problem with him using the video camera, but it was the common courtesy of asking. He stated he did not need permission to do that. Along with he stated that the video had good batteries.
A little history with the ex. I left him because he was mentally and emotionally abusing me. I feel that because he has visitation rights, he is trying to abuse it and he is trying to do this to make me angry. He shows no respect by coming into my sister's home before his time and leaves when he wants to. She is also complaining that he is calling her home. He is calling because he wants to speak with the child who is 5 mos. old.

is he abusing his visitation rights and was it an invasion of privacy?

separeted 6 mos.
child 5 mos. old

i think that the invasion of privacy would depend on exactly what was on the video tape. if it is nothing more then the baby then no invasion has occured in mho. but if he is videoing your personal belongings and not the child then yes there has been an invasion. this does not include occasional back drops behind the child.

yes he is abusing his visitation rights if he CONSISTANTLY comes early and stays late. this happening every now and then is ok and although we try hard to put all this stuff down on paper to make sure everyone knows the rules there are also times when we just have to adjust to the circumstances.

and yes he is harassing you and your sister with the constant phone calls to a 5 month old child.

is there some other place you can allow your ex to visit with the baby other then your bedroom?

He may have good intentions with the video camera, but do the the fact that he broke into my email accounts twice and locked me out of it and knowing we have a custody and divorce trial coming up, I'm not sure if he did something sneaky to make that work against me.
He will not be in my son and I bedroom anymore. He will be placed downstairs in the basement area to visit with the child for two hours as scheduled.
Is there anything I can do to stop the harassing phone calls? I am in the process of firing my current lawyer due to the fact that I am unemployed and don't have any money to pay him. How should I handle the harassment?

go to the court house and have him served with a restaining order. they can be served for phone comtact also.

he may not stop but itwill give you something to use against him in court.