I've a question for you ladies - have any of you noticed health issues arise in yourselves since d-day? I mean we all know the "social" disease scariness - that in itself is a booger to wrap your brain around. But I'm also talking your general health. Stress - especially stress that doesn't ease up is KNOWN to wear down a body's defenses.

For me, I've always had high blood pressure - I was diagnosed with it at the ripe ole age of 27, but it's genetics, not environmental for me. THAT wasn't helped at all, but it's under control now. Of course there is the joy of the ADs I have to take daily so I don't turn into a quivering mass of protoplasm, sitting in the corner, rocking back and forth, plucking my eyebrows out one hair at a time... But the biggies now are the stomach ulcers and a really sweet case of IBS (fortunately or unfortatnely it's NOT the kind they advertise on TV for constipation - it's the OTHER end of the spectrum - basically, I don't process my foods as long as I should and they go thru me...TMI - so sorry). In speaking to my doc, there is a chance that I'll have to deal with both of them for the rest of my life. For crying out loud - I'm only 36! I mean, it was a HUGE issue for me when I was diagnosed with the high bp. I was still in my 20s, but I eventually figured that you can't beat genetics - it was hardwired in and that's the way I was. But this...this...this...oy! I'm looking down the barrell of having to take MORE pills for the rest of my life. Makes me feel fricken ancient! To top it off, one of the meds is barbituate based, so I can't even have a highball now and then, or my beloved blue stuff (bacardi's hurricane - num!).....grrrrrrrrrr! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Dh said something so obtuse about it last night, too. He said since we're so much happier now, it'll just go away. I love the man, but d'ya ever just want to take your shoe off and beat the crap out of him or what?

- Kimmy

I definitely have, I have had asthma since I was 17, it has gotten worse, more so in the last few months. I also have a lot of tension headaches & I am on antibiotics now for a sinus infection, I am sure my immune system is all out of whack cuz of my high stress level.

My dad told me I need to find a resolution to this situation, (get rid of the SOB), so I can be healthier. He may be on to something??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Yes, I do want to hit H w/ a shoe or some other blunt object, almost on a daily basis. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Hi Nio,

Yes I understand the frustration of stuff happening because of Stress. When I was about 35 I got Shingles. That is something you are not suppose to get till you are about 50. I told the doctor she couldn't be right. I was in denial. Of course the Doctor got smart with me. She said, "That's why I am the Doctor and you are not." Anyhow I was being emotionally and physically abused at the time by my second husband who I am not with now. I hope you can find a natural means to treat it without pills. I feel so bad for you Kimmie. I did not reply to your post at first because I felt I didn't have a lot to offer. I just want to let you know I can feel your pain.

<small>[ June 23, 2004, 11:40 AM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>

Babygirl - watch what you take for those headaches....Boy howdy! I was getting them, too, and they'd turn into migraines (because my bp would go up and up and up the more I hurt - it was a vicious circle). One of the contributing factors of my ulcers were the meds I took to get rid of the headaches (it also doesn't help that I am a confirmed addict of Diet Cherry Coke). Be careful and talk to your doc, okay? Hugs to you!

Genia - oh my! I've heard how painful shingles are! Poor thing! No relapse? I really hope not!
Hugs to you, too!

I'm okay with it - mostly. Men! You can't live with 'em, and you can't string them up by their toes and beat them like a pinata! I know that hindsight is 20/20 and all that - but gosh! If there is ONE thing I could tell someone else that is just beginning this path, it's to follow Plan A and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS FIRST. Anything else you take care of should be afterthought. It sounds so simple - but as women, we naturally think of others first and ourselves last. It's the way we're wired. I dunno about anybody else, but I'm due for a re-wiring now!

- Kimmy

Well for me I lose weight dramatically which was okay because I hadn't lost the last 10 pounds from being pregnant but when I get really stressed such as in Feb. after H moved out again I get small shingle outbreaks--I got my first outbreak of shingles my senior year in high school before prom. My mom gets them to when she gets stressed.

Kimmy,

I have suffered from common migraines since I was 33, just about the time I met H??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> Should have heard the warning bells go off then huh?

I just had a check up so thank God I don't have hbp or sugar or any other goodies, I have low cholestral (sp), need to lose weight to get that under control, which I already knew I needed to do that for so many other reasons.

Funny when I put H out I lost over 30 lbs., looked great, felt good about my appearance at least. Of course I have gained all that back, stressing over this crap, but when I make up my mind that my health is more important than ANYTHING else I will lose it.

Hi Albany,

I had no idea a person could get shingles so young. That is so messed up it happened to you just before your prom. You poor baby. I know you were angry. I been getting headaches too and stiff neck. I was in a lot of accidents. I am gonna ask Doctor about a muscle relaxer. I have chronic neck pain. Seems it got worse this year. I hope they can give me something for that.

I think you can get them at any age. Alot of people I know get them when they are stressed or you can get them when your immunity is down. I had them when I was going thru chemo.

Hey everyone. I have this horrible pain in my rear, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> OH I forgot thats just the STOW. Just thought I would make yall laugh! Your walking, talking, beautiful ladies! Happy hump day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Albany & Babygirl,

I think dramatic weight loss is pretty common. I lost 50 lbs. after d-day #1. The good news is that through changing my woe (lol - that's another one I use all the time - it's way of eating), I've kept it off. I look better bod wise than I did in high school - didn't hurt that I had breast reduction surgery a few years ago, either (God, please bless Dr. Ladoux and his golden scapel so that he can help other people like he helped me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ).

But I wouldn't recommend the "abject grief diet" to my worst enemy (that's what I call it - people'll ask how I lost it, and I'll just say the "abject grief diet" - I think that pretty well sums it up)!

- Kimmy

I know what you mean on the other stuff also. I now have IBS and am working on the ulcers. I am proceeding with the divorce because he has sat on the fence so long the post is coming out of his mouth. I lost 40 lbs the first 2 mo of this fun rollercoaster ride and am still trying to get my hormones back into wack!! My girls are on vacation with him as of the 22nd. They are going to Calif, up in the mountains to a remote resort he is working at (did same job last summer). They will have a blast, but I will worry. He would call me every night and tell me about the bears.....and then there are the mountain lions the news writes about. I just pray and let it go. It is all I can do.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Hey everyone. I have this horrible pain in my rear, OH I forgot thats just the STOW. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's nothing that a crowbar won't fix! Of course the tart might not make it through the removal process - but I'll bet that's a chance we're willing to take - what say? Your crowbar or mine?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Happy hump day! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You dirty, dirty girl! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Doh! Oh wait! It's WEDNESDAY! I guess I'm the dirty, dirty girl (wicked grin).

- Kimmy

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I now have IBS and am working on the ulcers. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think that it's pretty common that they go hand in hand - I didn't out and out ask the doc, but that's whe vibe I got from him. No blue stuff for you and I, Too (((sigh))). I love the blue stuff.....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am proceeding with the divorce because he has sat on the fence so long the post is coming out of his mouth. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You know, I had to sit back and visualize that one. It's a goodie - gotta remember that! I hope that damn post leaves splinters, then!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I just pray and let it go. It is all I can do. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My mommy friends and I have come to the conclusion that having children means having your heart forever walk around outside your body. Hugs. Letting them LIVE is so much harder than keeping them home and close...but they'll be so much more well rounded people for it.... I dunno if this'll help you, but at night I ask God to hold all my dear ones close to Him. Then I visualize His loving hands cupping them to Him. Like I said, it helps me.

- Kimmy

Please somebody what does STOW stand for. I looked it up in abbreviations and could not find that one. I am understand OW part but what does ST stand for?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am proceeding with the divorce because he has sat on the fence so long the post is coming out of his mouth. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I thought that was priceless too, & pretty much describes my H too. I usually call him a cake glutton instead though.

I feel for you after investing that much time in your M to have to D cuz H can't make up his mind or is too busy trying to have it all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

It is really sad. I wish you the best.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I usually call him a cake glutton instead though.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've heard them called "cakemen," too. It was all over a site I'd first gone to...oy! Was THAT a place! The OW there would spew the most HATEFUL venom - I finally had to stop going there. It made me so sick to see all the selfishness.

I didn't come back to the web for support for the longest that site gave me the willies so bad. I'm SO thankful I found people who were so supportive and kind.......

- Kimmy

(giggle) Hey look! I waylaid my own thread! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

STOW Stereo-typical other woman Mean's there are some other woman who are going on with their lives and gets out of the MM's and BS's life and moves on. The ones that DONT are STOW's. The ones who continually interfere with these people's lives because they cant except the fact that they where OW and not Wives. And expect EVERYTHING to be about the other child and them. Don't care about you and yours just hers. No remorse for her actions and always interfering. These STOW's help the attorney you have to hire get rich.
(My feelings on a STOW)
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Thanks
I have a feeling OW in my life is gonna be a STOW. I just wish she would pop that baby out already so I can see how she and WH will act so I can decide what I am gonna do.

Mine certainly is. I wish she'd choke on her own hair (she has really, really long hair - but then so do I, go figure).

I hope your dh comes around and sees the light Genia!

- Kimmy

Gen, me too !!! I feel like everything is on hold til 9-04! But oh well I'm having fun with my family until it gets here. I'm enjoying my H loving me in a way he NEVER has and me him too. This morning wore a short tank type type of dress and H was like where are you going in that? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> He's kinda been stressed out lately about money and stuff, I think the OW is on him again about stuff, but what ever. She called Sat while I was napping. But I just looked at him and smiled and told him I knew away to releive the stress <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> And it worked. I was mad at him when I left work and planned on LB'ing all over the place but when I got there and saw him, I figured if we released the stress, then we could talk about it better, and it worked! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Told him we have always made it, and like he said we could get though anything no matter what ! So we had a good night after that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Well I haven't seen or heard how the OW is doing in her pg, but the last time I saw her she didn't look good. SO I just pray everynight the OC is healthy. I know it will have great insurance and guess who's work its though? Mine, yep when it gets here OC will be put on mine. I dont want her to have my S/S # but its on the card? what can I do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Oh and the attorney I talked to said wait til the OC gets here and tell him and he would start the papers. We have it in our mind what C/S is going to be and so when OC does pop uot, we will just put that amount back, that was the arrears can be paid and go on. Not paying anything until the courts have set it. Everything giving is a "gift" not support until the DNA and C/S is set. So Santa can leave the gifts not me!
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