Sorry to ask one more question about the wacko OW who played me for a fool, but I need some opinions as to what you would do.

Being that my husband and I want to find out if she's truly pregnant (I doubt it) for closure, we're going to hire a good PI to get some photos for proof.

Being that she claimed to have gotten pregnant in mid January and is due Oct 10th, she should be showing now. Judging by her body type, I don't think she'd be able to hide it, if she is pregnant.

My husband wants to wait until late August or later to hire the PI. I think we should do it within the next couple of weeks.

My reasoning for doing it sooner is to catch her off guard. She probably isn't paying much attention to appearing pregnant if she goes out to the grocery store, etc. She'll attempt to make herself look fatter sometime in September, because she'll assume that we will wait until then to catch a glimpse of her.

Yes, she's still in town. Her previous victim requires a signature when he sends her money for medical bills, etc, and he told us that she was the one who signed for the letter.

As much as I'd like to hide out in the bushes and see her for myself and save the money, I can't risk it due to the court's decision to dismiss my "abusive phone call" charges if I don't bother her. (rolling my eyes here....)

I'm not trying to rush this just to get closure, but as I said, I want to catch her unaware. I personally think now is the time, rather than waiting until the last minute. Besides, with it being summer, she'd be apt to wear summer clothes, rather than a sweatshirt in late September. Easier to "see" the truth, if you know what I mean?

Sorry for asking this stupid question. I'm sure some of you want to shake me and tell me to wake up, but I have this burning need to know. Only then, can I really put this behind me.

I think the best thing for you to do is enjoy your life, this may be the calm before the storm. Don't give her another thought your becoming obsessed. It there is I baby which I highly doubt, wait till it is born and the court orders DNA. There is nothing you can do about it now even if she appears pregnant,

I'm with IFM. If she is, well they have to come out sometime. So live your life, don't waste your money. A PI for 4 hours cost me almost 600.00! They are not cheap and you can not do it. Quit worring about her and just work on you and yours!!! Don't give her the satisfaction that you even care. I know that is hard to do, but you will be so much better off. Plus inless you catch her in a bathing suite, how would you know? Some people just don't show and some that do, can hide it too. If they want to. Big shirt, ect. So don't waste your money. If you really want to spend it though, find a nice place for you & H to go and stay for the weekend. ! Hope you have a great week.
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Arabesque,
I also think you need to save your money and let this play itself out. The odds are this was all a con and you are beating yourself up for nothing.

Another thing to consider is your own statement..
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">As much as I'd like to hide out in the bushes and see her for myself and save the money, I can't risk it due to the court's decision to dismiss my "abusive phone call" charges if I don't bother her. (rolling my eyes here....)</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Should you hire a PI and have her tailed and pictures taken of her and such, it could all backfire on you and make you look like you are stalking her.

Do yourself, your husband and family a favor and put this woman out of your mind. You have obviously become obsessed and it could hurt you in the long run...

Let go and Let God handle her.

Stacia

Ok, I guess I'll try to let this issue go. You're right, I am obsessing a bit, but after what she put me through, I suppose it's a bit normal to feel like I'm losing my mind.

I have a suspicion that health factors are causing some of my anxiety and depression, so I'm making an appointment to see the doctor. So, I'm sorry if I sounded a bit nuts in my post.