Very interesting view of it Painter!

On another note, how are you and Robel doing? Hope all is well, and continues to be well!

Again, you are both still in my thoughts!

Tigger

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Military is another one.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I guess I'm really screwed on this one, dh was an MP in the Army when we got married, now he is out of the Army, but still an officer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I had a thought this morning as I was trying to wake up. Cops, Docs, and military are all jobs that one gets to or has to keep secrets. This dosn't mean tell lies really, but they get to practice keeping information from others with a straight face. Even others that they are friends with... or more involved. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is true. Another thing is it is harder for them to be held accountable. Not sure if accountable is the right word. A lot easier for them to "disappear" and have a good reason for it, and really no way for us to verify. Oh, sorry hun got a long call, couldn't check in, you know I can't answer my phone while I'm on a call. Sorry hun, had an emergency surgery, couldn't get to a phone.

I'm not sure about Dr. wives, but I know as an officers wife, it's not very good to have your wife calling the station all the time etc..

In fact, I remember one night dh was supposed to be home at like midnight. I woke up at 3am he wasn't home. I called his cell couldn't get ahold of him. I was scared to call the station. Fell back asleep, around 430 I woke up he still wasn't home. I finally called the station. He was there, had a late case, but he never bothered to called. I was not a very happy camper to say the least. When we talked to my Dad about it, my dad said "oh your're one of those wives.!!"

In July dh was away for training for 5 weeks. We agreed before he left no bars, especially no strip clubs etc. Well he went to a bar, when he was around other he was very short etc. I was again talking to my Dad about it, he said that going out like htat is what "the guys" do. Go out for a drink after work etc. I said he is married, he doesn't need to go out like that especially with his past of an EA etc. Again, my Dad said I need to quit being "one of those wives". The whole time I"m thinking yeah advice coming from a man married and divorced 3x lol..

I am currently attending Nursing school and would never "go after a married man" never even thought about going into the Nursing profession for that reason.

My H is a Network Admin. and from what I have heard there is a high infidelity rate among IT prof.

Just to add my 2 cents, by xh (the cheater) was military, and wanted to be a cop when he got out. lol, go figure. He didnt, instead he became manager of a Taco Cabana (24 place) and met ow#2 at an IHOP next door. So who knows. I think it is just a matter of not protecting yourself against affairs (unless you are my x and I think he went looking for them.

My H now is a PA (physician assistant) and we have often talked about how people get involved in affairs and the things we have to do to "affair proof" our marriage. I think the first thing to realize is that no one is immune to it. It can happen to anyone. We are both strong christians, but know it happens to the best of them. The point is to be aware of the people around you and how much time you spend with them. If work is taking away from the family it is time to find another job. The place he works at now takes walk-ins until 5 so he doesnt get out until 6-7 every night and it kinda takes away from our family time so he is starting to job hunt a bit.

Anyways.....just my little 2 cents on this subject.

God Bless.....

bw