No it was not to long ago i was in the same situation so i am trying to understand if that it always works this way in smiliar situation but i also took a different route to mine in stead hating the ow i try to putting myself in her shoes... any i'm trying to read some of the others and i want to reply to them but like first post (that i'm truely sorry about) was deleted so i'm getting a little shy to post but i'm not trying bash on anyone i just read and alot of things that i went threw she is going threw sorry again i guess i'll just not post anymore sorry again <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ October 28, 2004, 04:30 PM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>

If your here to get or offer help we are glad to have you. They dont delete post just because. Have you read though the basic concepts? We really dont want anyone to leave that NEEDS to be here. But we want to protect the ones who are indeed here to help and seek it.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

drawstring,

Please stay and get the help, assistance and guidance you are seeking. Tell us about you, your situation and what you need help working on. We want to be there for you too!!

Crazymum...I had all my posts from TOW printed out and shown to over 25 people. Somebody from one of our boards sent xMM an anon letter directing him to the site. It was very bad...very, very bad. I am curious, do you know who gave her the information? I have a pretty good idea who did it to me.

My ramifications were more financial than traumatic, as yours were. I am sure it felt very violating...apart from losing your child. I am still having a hard time dealing with him having read everything I have written in the last 3 years. And I mean everything.

Anyway...if you don't know who did it, I may be able to shed some light on the situation...and the way they found out the information.

I am so sorry about the child.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> - how ever did she find out about this site, etc? It seems to me that your good care and concern for OC was obvious???? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I honestly think she talks with Xmm. That and when you know someones story it's not hard to figure them out when reading. I have run into two posters here from the Aol message boards.

As for H, he has given up. He is so sick of Xow and all her crap he doesn't want to see her face again.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> maybe your not or you are contridict yourself i guess i should the post over but one minute your saying this and it something different. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow! Seems somebody is really interested in my story. If you read things from the begining you would understand then. But then if you are Xow/friend of her then you also know. Kids pulled from mom, placed in foster care, pulled from foster care, placed with grandparents, pulled from grandparents, 2 in foster care, oc in our home, oc pulled from our home, oc put in foster care. Alot for any child to handle.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I don't quite understand... a total of 6 posts ,,all either criticising or questioning crazymum </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Weird huh?? But she's afraid to post to anyone else?

Just so Draw knows, Someone just didn't call CPS and make some accusation then they pulled her kids. Cps investigated her home, gave her a warning, chance to pull her act together. 3 weeks later she was caught in the act. SThat is when they pulled the kids. She has since plead guilty in court.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">, do you know who gave her the information </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No clue, just hunches.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am sure it felt very violating...apart from losing your child. I am still having a hard time dealing with him having read everything I have written in the last 3 years. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Not really violated. Just pissed. I know this is a public message board. I know that what I post is open for the world to see. But when it is brought into court and you are not even given a chance to defend yourself and when you find out how crappy your lawyer is afterwards it a person can get pissed. Then to find out that if things were shown to the judge he would have thrown them out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> As for them removing Oc. Yes it hurt, I hurt more for what he is going through. The only good thing from it was he was going to live with his younger siblings.


All in all, I'm not about to let what Xow did to change my life. If sitting here talking with people about what happened in our past and how we all got through it bothers her then she can kiss my [censored].

As for who did it, let her know, I would love to. Not that it would do me any good.

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Crazymum....this might sound "off" but I have a feeling that Drawstring is not a native English speaker....and that might be the source of the misunderstandings. I could be wrong, she may just be hurt and confused...but I'm pretty good at spotting this because I've lived much of my life overseas. It's happened many times...dunno on this board...but definitely some of the others.