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bump up for the newbies <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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Remember jmims
first things first
build a joyful happy solid marriage FIRST
READ
STUDY
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the marriage concepts linked by Sunny on the first post of this thread
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Use THIS TIME building a solid marriage
Waste none of your energy AT THIS TIME with OC/OW concerns. For now, anything having to do with OW needs/desires/complaints/feelings are NONE of your business. Ignore her completely.
Why?
Because paying attention to her is detremental to your marriage recovery.
I usually post on general Questions forum, and sometimes on Recovery forum ... and until OC is born I suggest you look into those forums as well as this one.
Why?
Because you have Marriage Builders Work to do.
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bumping up for newbie Betrayed3
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keeping this on top <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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BW -33 (Me)
WH-38
M- 4 years/together 10
OC (girl) born 03/03
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True friends stab you in the front - Oscar Wilde
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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Bump up for Confused New Mom
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Kids - S30,SD23,SS22
OC Born - 09/08/04
C with OC - SS
It's an UPHILL CLIMB
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BS/47
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It's an UPHILL CLIMB
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BW -33 (Me)
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True friends stab you in the front - Oscar Wilde
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My husband has a child that resulted from an affair he was having. My challenge is that he will not respect guidelines such as setting up drop and pick up @ the child's daycare, calling the ex, etc. She is a very volatile lady and I wonder if his refusal to set guidelines means that they are still having an affair. Confused for the past few years.
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smarlowe,
start a new thread by clicking on the post button at the top of of the index page. Provide us with more information. Length of M, A, age of COM, age of OC, etc.
FTS
Me BS
D Day 4-2-2005
OC born 12-2004
DS 21, DS 12
Married 1993
May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.
Recovering....it's a long road, even with a dedicated FWH
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It's good to have a refresher of what might have saved my sanity at one time in my life when I needed it.
Thank-you MB.
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May God bless America.
BW. d-day 01-1996. In recovery ever since.
2 OC's. I met OW and 2OC's in 1996. No contact since. H's choice. Our grown children know of 2OC's and has met one of them. No interest.
I love my H again.
MB is great.
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