Oh I'm in a good mood today! Remember how xOW was making a stink about us going on vacation, she personally called our lawyer after trying to get us to talk to her about increasing support. He shut her up quick! Saying that if she wanted to make such a stupid claim, he would put OUR lawyer fees and court fees on to her. You can only file a CS adjustment every 3 yrs or if the difference would be more than a 10% change. She found out by the way from a co-worker H and xOW share who doesn't know the story about our situation. H sent him a picture of all of us with Tigger and Pooh from Disney and had it open when she came to his desk for something. She wigged out apparently! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
And "other" board just made me laugh today! MM aren't decent and are the manipulators of the WHOLE A. Again they blame MM for everything! I don't believe for a minute that those women were manipulated into screwing a MM anymore than I believe a MM is manipulating into screwing an OW. Oh what a good laugh! I just don't understand why they think their children are suppose to get out of this mess completely unscathed?? NO child (BC or OC) deserves to be hurt by either parent but it happens and the only people to blame are the MM and OW who made the mess. MM hurts his children in the M plus the OC and the OW hurts the OC by choosing a MM for a father. Why can't women see this?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Hindsight is 20/20 Gwenie. ***EDITED*****

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 01:26 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Sorry if the BS's aren't "trained to stay on the paper" over here like you like on TOW.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />


I'm glad the lawyer shut her up quick. If she wanted the whole package, she should have gotten involved with single man and done things the right way. There are no guarantees there either, he could end up being a deatbeat.

Oh yeah, they got dumped, that's the problem!

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 01:26 PM: Message edited by: findingmywayback ]</small>

Hey, thats just nuts.. who said having a baby w/someone means that the money he earns w/his wife for a vacation is HERS TOO??? OR OC'S??

GEE, let my kids tell me what they are "entitled" to and they'd make me beleive they DESERVED this JUST for being born, also!! hahahaha!!!!

Finding.... how are you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
LOL LOL I don't go on paper, I try very hard, though, to be a good BWifey (now known as RD - Ressurected Diva, not BW).. I know you wanted to talk to me over email but all my old accounts automatically closed. I did not put up a new one yet.. sorry! Please feel free to start a thread here --- I'd love to chat w/you here at least?

Sorry for the threadjack, resume Gwenie needs a drink fron the bottle... just kidding.

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 01:48 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

Only sometimes Gwenie????

The longer this goes on the more I find myself LMAO. No wonder it hurt so bad last night when I fell on my tushie....I've laughed so much lately, I got no padding left!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'm doing very well thank you! Glad to see you still have your sense of humor and fiestiness (sp?) intact! Don't worry about the email, I am hardly ever able to get to mine anyway.

So, laughed your a$$ right off huh NG? Maybe I need to try that, this baby is making mine big enough! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Oh man Justus! I go and make myself a snack and I missed all the fun!! I wanted to swat her on the nose with a rolled up newspaper first. How bad could her post have been?? Must have hit a nerve with the TRUTH! That is if the OW are even capable of knowing what the truth is!
Still here Joshmom?

They are VERY quick to swat the nose of an unruly BS over there. Just read that one thread "inviting" discussion and you'll see.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Maybe I need to try that, this baby is making mine big enough!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh sweetie....I'd give anything to have a beeee-hind now. Seriously...I'm one of those nuclear-warped Barbie dolls that has big chichis and no butt.....the only time I had one was when I was pg.....oh, to have a pg butt again........You love your pg butt while you have it darling. God gives you that padding so you can feed that baby when he/she comes along...it's a gift, and anyone who tells you otherwise'll have ME to answer to!

Squeezes!

Is your baby kicking yet? Here's a funny...play mariachi music...made everyone of my jellybeans turn flip flops....could never tell if they loved it or hated it....lol!

- Kimmy

Hey! Girls,

Boy what have I been missing? I agree with you Gweenie 1000000%!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> what the heck is going through some of these women's minds? Is it just air flowing between their ears? Consquences Consequences, Consequences!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Their are CONSEQUENCES FOR THEIR ACTIONS!!! do they not realize that, plus it is not the BW's fault - NONE OF IT IS!!!

It took two to tango and unfortunately/fortunately the dance ends badly for most. But that is the price you pay when you get involved with a MM or any man for that matter. He could choose someone else even if he is single. It's a risk that they (OW) VOLUNTEERED FOR!!


JT

PS--- unfortunately ALL the children suffer from THEIR (OW/MM) STUPIDITY!!

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 03:20 PM: Message edited by: JT2 ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Gwenieinabottle:
<strong> Oh man Justus! I go and make myself a snack and I missed all the fun!! I wanted to swat her on the nose with a rolled up newspaper first. How bad could her post have been?? Must have hit a nerve with the TRUTH! That is if the OW are even capable of knowing what the truth is!
Still here Joshmom? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">swat me on the nose with a rolled up newspaper? Oh please. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> And I don't know why what I posted was edited.

***edit*****

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 03:25 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Finding.. the mod over there comes into a thread that is hundreds of posts long... pops in.. has jokes about me to rile me up ... then deletes me when I respond to her. And then continues to delete everything I say after that...
Amazing how a "mod" is the most immature of everyone on the thread <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

FINDING IS "BETTER" in the scheme of things.... know why??? CAUSE SHE obviously knows she was involved just as the MM was involved-- and she obviously has gotten over the point of whing about how unfair the MM was or her H was.. and does not shift the blame off of herself. Oh and then she doesn't feel its somehow ALL THE BW and MM'S FAULT!! SHE is also married and here rebuilding her marriage like the rest of us.
Sounds better than being an OW who bashes and blames everyone for her own sins. God forgave her and she forgave herself, maybe?

I guess Finding's life circumstances and learning process was healthy for her and her family, as was all of us who are here on "earth" and not fantasyland fog fun world.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by giovanna123:
<strong> Finding.. the mod over there comes into a thread that is hundreds of posts long... pops in.. has jokes about me to rile me up ... then deletes me when I respond to her. And then continues to delete everything I say after that...
Amazing how a "mod" is the most immature of everyone on the thread <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You have your mod's mixed up. *I* haven't edited anything of yours. And maybe you need to go back and read some of *our* stories. I'm over 8 years past the affair. *I* have accepted responsibility for *my* actions.

Hi Joshmom,
NO I'm not laughing at a Child's expense! I'm laughing at the way people will only look at a situation from one side and will not accept the fact/truth that the man you (general OW) choose a baby with was married to someone else at the time! And then you think your child will NOT get hurt in this? Of course he/she is! My kids were hurt too by what their father did. OC will hurt too! Its the price that is paid for TWO selfish people! Thanks for coming back and posting though.

*******Any posting, editing or deleting questions or problems can be handled by reading your TOS, MB policy... OR emailing your moderator*****

JustUss2@aol.com


edit just to say that my H knowing hurt our children and myself when he had an A. OW knowing hurt their children (OC and other C) too by forgeting that the man they're with is married and decide to get pregnant anyway.

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 03:52 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Gwenieinabottle:
<strong> Hi Joshmom,
NO I'm not laughing at a Child's expense! I'm laughing at the way people will only look at a situation from one side and will not accept the fact/truth that the man you (general OW) choose a baby with was married to someone else at the time! And then you think your child will NOT get hurt in this? Of course he/she is! My kids were hurt too by what their father did. OC will hurt too! Its the price that is paid for TWO selfish people! Thanks for coming back and posting though. I don't like that posts get deleted or edited either here or "there" its just too big brother for my taste. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have to live with the consequences of my actions. And part of that responsibility is going to be explaining to my son why his father isn't involved in his life. And YES I will tell him the truth (age appropriate, of course). I won't sugarcoat it, either. I have admitted that I was selfish, I have made my peace with myself, apologized to BW, and forgiven xMM for the most part for what he did to ME. For what he's done to my son, that's not up to me to forgive. And my son is 8. I haven't been with xMM since I was pregnant. I'm so far past this that I'm able to see both sides of the coin. What infuriates me is the generalizations of "them vs. us" when it should be more about "how do we fix this". And if fixing it means NC, then that's what you do. If it means C, then that's what you do. And to say that you wanted to swat me on the nose with a rolled up newspaper was just uncalled for. I've never had a problem with anyone here, save one or two. I've made friends from this site, a lot of which are gone now because of all the mud-slinging that goes on. People make generalizations because I was once an OW, and my child is a result of that. Like I've said before, though - you don't know me. I could be ANYONE. I could be the woman that lives next door, that drives your kids on the bus, that takes care of you in an ER. You don't know ME.

Yeah, right, you can fool yourself but you are not fooling anyone else. You are not over it. You have a child to remind you forever.

And you can continue your childish little game all you want on your little forum. Everyone expects the mods over there to have zero self control, zero ability to moderate without bias, and zero ability to tolerate anything but OW coddling. So it's just another day in "crazy world" over there.
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G123.... I know exactly who you are talking about.
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NG - yes, he moves A LOT. I'm betting he will be at least about 9lbs. Already very big, everyone keeps saying I look like I am all baby, but I don't think so! lol

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Had my shower this weekend. Lot's of friends and family there, we felt very loved.

I am very blessed that I have such an awesome H. He stayed with me thru the discovery of the A, my going to counseling and bettering of myself, and WANTED another child with me. There has never been a question as to whether or not he wanted this baby. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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I just hope you ladies don't feel you have to mind your P's and Q's over here just because some OW from another site might be reading. God forbid THEY get their feelings hurt, nevermind all the feelings they have hurt with their behavior. I might not be experiencing directly what many of you are, but I can certainly sympathize. I am a wife, and a mother. Most of your stories break my heart, yet reaffirm my decision to take the high road back when D-day occured.

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 03:56 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by findingmywayback:
<strong> reaffirm my decision to take the high road back when D-day occured. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The view is usually MUCH better from the high road! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Pep

Joshmom,
Ok I assumed that your post must have been pretty bad to get deleted. We know that assuming makes an a$$ out of u and me. So I extend an apology for the newspaper comment. It takes a lot to get me offended so I thought it must have been bad. Again I don't agree with editing and deleting posts. Read or not is your choice.
I don't know you anymore than you know me. You have a very valid point on that. Just like not all W are a granny panty wearing fatso with no sex drive. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
I just have a hard time believing that the story told to the OC (most OC) aren't sugar coated to make the OW look like a Saint. Just like the A is sugarcoated to a BW to make the MM not look as bad. I think its part of nature to do that.

Apology accepted. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> And I really didn't think that what I wrote was offensive. Maybe just the subject matter? And I agree with you about the editing and deleting. I have issues with what is deleted/left on my own board by some mods.

And for the record FMWB - I *am* over the affair. Are you saying that anyone here can never get over it because they might see OC or have CS to pay? That's just a ridiculous statement. And I made the decision to take the high road BEFORE D-day. WELL before D-day.

I have to agree with you on that Pep! My exMM decided not to take the high road and his life ended up pretty interesting to say the least...