I'm glad I was able to help you, some of the women that used to post here kept me sane. You are doing what's best. Keep us updated, if you ever need support in RL email me and I'll send you my real email address. And I'll keep popping in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Unsure

okay girlies,

I DID IT!!! I FINALLY DID IT!!!! I packed up all of his belongings along with my ss's stuff and left them in the garage for him to pick up.

I had prayed about it and prayed that my ss would not be at home when I did it. The Lord answered my prayers and ss went to his mom's for the weekend. I prayed that my bbies would not be awake to see me packing it up and guess what they took a 4 hour nap (I know there is a GOD <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ). I was feeling guilty all while I was packing it up, but I have asked him to get his stuff and find him a place for I don't know how long.

He kept asking for a few more days just a few more days, then a few more days. For all who don't know the rest I rescued him after OW threw him out - so no we were not really back together even though he used it to try and stay in the house. I fele like I was being used daily and of course I do not believe that he was not involved still with her.

It was civil when he came home I'd called him earlier to tell him that I was packing it up and where he could pick it up. He said fine!! When he got home with the valentines in hand ( last night no less)he was furious that I had really done it. I'd said it for weeks now but not done it ( so of course he would not believe that I was going to do it). he got angry took my valentine back and packed the stuff in his car and left.

He called but I decided not to answer the phone. I am so happy that it was not a big blow out!!! I had prayed that it just be quick and easy no mess for the kids to witness. None of the kids were present so I was greatful for that.

I slept good in my bed last night ALONE!!!! NO SNORING or HOGGING THE COVERS!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OF course I was worried about them, but I had to put it out of my mind - he's a big boy and can take care of himself. He tried to lay the guilt trip on me this morning, but I am not falling for that and am past even discussing a reconciliation with him. I want out!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I trust in GOD that he knows better than I and I am on to a new found strength and life with my children beside me.

I know he is not going to go quietly so I'll need all the help I can get to stay focused on what's right for me and the babies!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />


Waiting 2 Exhale !! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hey JT - I have missed you girl!!

Glad to hear you have regained control in your life. Enjoy the peace.

Take care of you and those babies!

Love,
Kris

Kris,

Oh my goodness I've missed you too girl! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

How is everything going with you and yours? Better I hope!!

Update me!!

Love ya,

JT = W2E <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Well, JT, for a long time not much had changed until recently. H is still not at home, but he is seriously talking about it. I have really seen alot of changes in him that leads me to believe it will happen. However, I am being cautiously optimistic until I actually see him home.

There are still issues to deal w/ as far as OW/OC are concerned. We have not told the kids yet about OC, which will have to be done if he moves home. I dread that, but as long as the adults handle it well, then I think they will also. H has not done DNA or set up legal V/CS, but quite honestly, after seeing recent pix of OC, there is really no doubt she is his. OW and H have been working civilly together thus far w/ V/CS, but when he moves home, OW will change quickly. She has made that threat in the past. So, I have encouraged H to get all the legal issues in order before he tells OW he is home to stay.

After all this time, I want to believe this is genuine, but I know I need to not get my hopes up too much until I see that his actions match his words. But he is making some honest strides, and after much prayer, I do believe my family will be together again soon.

God Bless,
Kris

Kris,

I am glad to see you keeping the faith. I hope that he will do all that he needs to do for his family's sake, but I do want you to be cautious. My H has been preaching that same thing even as early as last night, yet he has made no move to do any of it. It is like they are trying to keep their options open.

If we don't except what they decide to do they will not have upset OW in the process. I don't know what runs through their wicked little minds, but I pray that he is on the up and up.

How are those little people of yours doing? Fine I hope! Be safe and continue to pray for GOD has the answer for all things in his time.

Miss you much,

JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Okay I am getting the whole speech again about if you just give us one more try. I love you with all my heart and I want our family to be together. I can't live with what I have done to you and the kids. L know that I 've made a huge mistake and plese don't end our marriage. I want to grow old with you and be your best friend again. I want to be with you and the kids all under one roof not apart. Speeches, speeches, all I ever get is speeches. I never get any actions.

I have also decided to change all of my phone numbers, home and cell. OW had them from previous conversations and I just want a clean start from all of that. She has no reason to know any of my information. It is bad enough she knows my address, but I am not moving I built a beautiful home and I'll be darned if I'm going to let anyone run me away from it.

I just want the late night phone calls to stop, and the laughing, snickering when you answer then hang ups to stop. I feel like women should not play with children (OW as the child in this example). My H even agrees and said he help me prosecute to the fullest extent of the law, which if I have to I will!!!

But the easiest is to just change it - so I am. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Anything fruitful to say? Anyone out there?

W2E <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hey W2E,

As I have just gone thru the "please let me come back, can u just let me in the house, can't we talk about this...."

I have one thing only to say, if he is out let him stay out, get your CS, take care of your babies, let him set up his V with the kids & move on with your life honey, if u allow him to he will keep u in limbo land forever with false promises & lies.

I am so sorry things didn't work out for u, but all we can do is try, it takes two to make a marriage work, well actually three cuz God should b the center. You can't do it alone, u tried as hard as u could, that is all that God requires of any of us.

Someone wrote this on this board awhile ago & it is so true;

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Let us not forget that the Almighty God allowes separation and divorce on the grounds of adultery. He does not want you to live a miserable and untrusting life with someone who does not honor and love you. He hates to see his children suffer. How can you trust him again unless he understands and repents of his actions. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I felt it summed up my H's actions totally & I think I sums up your H's actions as well.

Keep your head up girl, stay strong, LIVE!!!!!

Life is too short, & much too short for the games kwim???

BIG BIG Hugs to u - this is not an easy thing to do! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{W2E}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Love u!

itzy-bitzy-teensie-weensie TJ to say Hi BBG!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

It's hard to keep track of you with all the name changes. I do like the names you pick though!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

~ad

Waiting.....

I just read this (missed it somehow- imagine THAT).....

Uhhhh.... did you really call me a BOOB?

haaaaaaa I LOVE it-- its particularly funny to me because my mom used to call my brothers and me that when we were growing up. To this day we imitate her by calling each other "BOOBS"... this was the closest we ever got to hearing our mother "swear" LOL!!!

I will get back at ya when I have more time!! Love ya!

Hey Ad!

Thanks 4 the hello!

Missed all u guys!

Love u!

J2/Waiting...

LOL.. I just updated myself on this thread.. you asked for something fruitful.. was my "boob" post fruitful? I can tell you this- you amaze me more and more with each post. You are AWESOME!!!!! Dont ever forget how few women with little teeny ones do what you are doing now----- suriving emotionally without H because you have to. You cannot beleive how many ZILLIONS of women stay for YEARS AND YEARS in this miserable existence. You had a few dark years (minus the little lights of your life)... but I feel so confident about YOUR FUTURE WITH HAPPY HAPPY EXHALING!!!! woo hoo... SOO very close to leaving ALL the clutter behind and clearing out your "closet!"

BBgirl.. hey you!! I didn't know it was OVER w/you and H... I missed something (well a lot I suppose).... I know you are going to have lots of good things to look forward to now.

You girls are ON YOUR WAY now. I am almost envious.... just because of the fresh start you all are getting without the drama/oc/A looming in the back of your head at times when you look at H.......... but I think thats weird and bad to say here or something... soooo

Thanks Girlies,

B - I am like AD I can't keep up with our new names, but I miss you lots. I hope that your decision as well as mine will bring us the life that we so desire and deserve. Thank you for reminding me of just what GOD has promised us all.

I know that we will flourish through this mess and live a very happy and loving life without these particular H's. ( I say that because I really don't think that GOD wants us to live our young lives alone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

G123 - you are my sunshine!! (hahahahahaha) Thanks for always having encouraging words for me. I need them from time to time and I can always count on your support. I feel like I am always concerned with me, but I would like to ask how things are going on your home front?

You guys have never heard from your OW/OC again (since you got back together)have you? Is he still kissing those feet or better yet being the loving H that he should be? I wish you all the best and am glad that at least one man decided that he loved his wife and children more than the Bleeeeeeep out in the street!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Keep reminding me from time to time not to fall for anything that he says anymore; I am well aware that he is crying because he has everything to lose. Even he has now stated that that is the case, but too little toooooo late!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />


Love ya girls,

W2E <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Okay,

Why is it that we sometimes still try to remain peaceful to our H's even when they do not deserve it. I went to pick up my ss last night while H was supposedly at a meeting ( Court Ordered anger management classes). the meetings are over at 7:00pm and the shop closes at (9:00pm). So tell me where the heck was he? He did not come and pick up ss until 11:20PM last night. This child has to be at school at 8:00am in the morning.

I am being used yet again aren't I? I hate to have ss be slighted, but I refuse to keep helping him when really all he wants is somewhere safe to leave him while he goes and does God knows what and with whom? I am not even mad about that I am mad about the fact that this man still gets to me one way or another!!

He uses the kids so until it is unreal. I am sick of making his life easier and yes it does hurt because I still feel used eventhough he is out of the house. He also calls and tries to use the lets do family things to get me to say okay and spend time with him. that is yet another ploy to get me back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I call my attny's office almost daily to ask why the heck he has not been served yet. he was to be served on Jan. 5, 2005. Here it is February 18 and I am so disgusted until I can not see straight. What is the hold up? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

As long as he thinks he has a chance it will not get any better. I want him to know that i want out and I want to be drama free and away from his guilt trips about our kids and my ss.

I am so sick of this mess <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I didn't ask for any of it!! and I do not deserve it!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Just needed to vent to someone!

W2E

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> what's wrong with your attorney!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
sorry ... just needed to vent that <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />