Now it's 6 weeks since I find out. My H left 2 weeks ago from our some , he needs time to think, time to make is decision wether he wants in or out , still to find out if he has any love for this young 22 year bimbo. So far I have been nice , patient , understanding. I miss so much . He has been gone on a business trip now for 9 days, his coming back on Friday. I'm so nervous of him coming back in town . Out of the blue he called last friday from where he is on his business trip, basicly just to make small conversation, people around me say that it's bacause he misses me, I dont know. My love for him is greater then ever before, and I want him back so bad, but I want the guy I married 16 years ago , not the guy that he has been since a couple of months. I feel lately that i'm getting bitter inside, I want to curse at him, but I know that I cant do that. My in laws our still at our house "Gos bless them " they my gardian Angels. I still cry myself to sleep everynight. Before I left on his business trip , He asked for my book " surviving an affair" and 1/2 way thru it he made the comment that it was "very interesting", that might be hopefull. I hope that he snaps out of it soon. I dont know that I can wait another month or 2 , <BR>Should I? Some advise would be welcome.<BR>Anne T

Hi Anne,<BR> Can't say what your H will do but if it is any comfort,I'll tell yu what happened in my/our case. My H moved out also,to think things out and decide if he still wanted to be married. He too started reading my SAA book and had the same comment as your H. He later said that he thought he was feeling something "different or special" and never realized that ANYONE having an affair would have the same feelings he did. He says it took away a lot of the "soulmate" and "this is meant to be" feelings he had about OW and his affair. In short, it was a startling reality check of just how far engulfed in a fantasy he really was. Hope this helped.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Anne T:<BR><B>Now it's 6 weeks since I find out. My H left 2 weeks ago from our some , he needs time to think, time to make is decision wether he wants in or out , still to find out if he has any love for this young 22 year bimbo. So far I have been nice , patient , understanding. I miss so much . He has been gone on a business trip now for 9 days, his coming back on Friday. I'm so nervous of him coming back in town . Out of the blue he called last friday from where he is on his business trip, basicly just to make small conversation, people around me say that it's bacause he misses me, I dont know. My love for him is greater then ever before, and I want him back so bad, but I want the guy I married 16 years ago , not the guy that he has been since a couple of months. I feel lately that i'm getting bitter inside, I want to curse at him, but I know that I cant do that. My in laws our still at our house "Gos bless them " they my gardian Angels. I still cry myself to sleep everynight. Before I left on his business trip , He asked for my book " surviving an affair" and 1/2 way thru it he made the comment that it was "very interesting", that might be hopefull. I hope that he snaps out of it soon. I dont know that I can wait another month or 2 , <BR>Should I? Some advise would be welcome.<BR>Anne T</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>