How about, 'I don't have the will to go on with the relationship(marriage). I have nothing more to give (I am still wondering what was really given).' 'Don't you think its best that I tell you this now rather than years down the line? This isn't something I just woke up and decided, I have been thinking about this for a long time.'<BR>So does this mean that the whole marriage was a sham. I knew we had problems but still. Was it all just an act on his part?? I am so confused.<P>Soul Searcher.<BR>

Hey,Sweetpea,<P>Sorry to change the subject but I read something that caught my eye.<P>If this is too personal than just tell me to go fly a kite.In the past has your H given you oral......and has he stoped now.It has always been really good,he even says so.He has always given me oral to the point of "O" than intercourse.Now when we have sex,it is making love it is more pationate and w/a lot more feeling,but he hasn't given me what he was doing before.I am kinda puzzled and wondered if maybe it was the same for you?<P>Thanks [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]: [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]<BR>

All the things you say your "wayward" spouse said to you are things my ex said to me, so it is not just about who cheated on who. It is about whomever is more in the marriage at the time. And whomever is the meanest.<P>How about these charmers that my ex told me (numbers one and two and three while I was literally on my hands and knees begging for forgiveness)<P>1. Sl*t<BR>2. Mutilation<BR>3. Any other name you can probably think of.<BR>3. I wish you would jump off a bridge<BR>4. Give me my key back. I don't want you killing yourself in my apartment.<BR>5. I don't love you, respect you, or admire anything about you.<BR>6. You forgot my birthday (his b-day was the day after he told me #5 and about a year of daily to weekly stuff numbers 1-3).<P>Sweetpea,<BR>Got any batteries? :-) How 'bout the 'ol shower massager (on low). Lots of non-hubby ways to take care of yourself. Hubby can be involved or not. I think you'll find he'd rather be included...<BR>