Hi all, <P>I just wanted to know if anyone can help me out a little here. First, my H has expressed that he would like to come home again When he came home before I felt so scared and did not want to push him too much and even was afraid to show my love for him. OW got her claws into him again. YUCK!<P>I have made an appointment with a counseler for tomorrow to see if they can offer insight into what to expect from h when he comes back again. I want to show her the printouts from Dr. Haley's site so she is familiar where I stand. I thought of asking her if she knew what to expect from him and what is expected of me when he does return. Also, H is having trouble and fears leaving OW and that is why is not home today.<P>If anyone can think of anything else that might be important to discuss, please let me know. <P>Thanks for reading and hope there are some ideas out there.<P>Pam<p>[This message has been edited by Pinky (edited March 14, 2000).]

Hi Pam,<P>Yes... so many counselors are unaware of your attempts...<P>All I can say is print out as much as you can for your counselor!<P>Important stuff would have to include the POJA... Plan A... and the "4 steps to a successful marriage"...<P>I wish you the best of luck... <P>Jim

Thanks NSR,<P>Yes I do plan to take as much material as possible. Last summer when I went for personal counseling, the counseler was always trying to talk me out of wanting him back. If they are unaware or have there own personal beliefs about relationships then its kind of useless to go. I plan to shop around a bit for marriage counceler as well if and when he comes back. I can't shop around much because HMO has only so many to choose from, but if they are aware of what I want maybe they can then guide me.<P>Thank you again,<P>Pam