As my 32-year marriage is coming to an end, it seems that my 27-year-old daughter's marriage is headed that way too.<P>Today my son-in-law called to tell me that my daughter is very depressed and was threatening suicide. I went to see her and she confessed that she had become involved with a young guy that had worked in her husband's carpet business and that he got her to try some drugs (Meth).<P>She had decided she wanted her husband back but he wants no part of her and wants custody of her 2 1/2 year-old son.<P>I called her father and told him to get over there. He comes very quickly in his beloved's hoping I don't see the car. I do and I ask "Why in the @#$@ are you coming here in that thing?" And he gets very defensive saying he loaned her his truck and that's all he had.<P>I feel like this is the last straw on top of having to go through a divorce. My husband feels that I blame as I have told him that he did not set a good example. He's also saying that I haven't supported the daughter like I should.<P>I was really angry as I have been give no support from either him or the daughter in the past three years. She and her husband and child have lived in the house my mother owned and not paid any rent and very little taxes and insurance. She had little time to come and see me and support me when I was hurting. Yes, I will be there for her. <P>I even told my husband that I could excuse the fact that he had an affair. Anyone could slip up. What I did have a hard time accepting was that he had cast me aside the last few years as if I really didn't matter and then would run and hide when faced with what he had done.<P>Thanks for letting me vent. And I desire your prayers at this very troublesome time.<P>Martha<P>

Martha,<P>Soory to hear of your double pain. Perhaps this will serve to help both of you heal and grow. It may also help improve your relationship with her.<P>I will add you to my prayer list.<P>God Bless<P>Bob

Martha I'm sorry to hear this.<P>You are right when it rains...<P>At a time were you need to feel calm, then something like this happens.<P>I too will pray .<P>Take care<BR>Kat

I'm sorry to hear of your pain.<P>How is your daughter? Is she getting the help she needs?<P>Try not to be too hard on her for not being there for you. Sometimes it is hard on the people who love us because they honestly don't know what to say when these things happen. I am glad that you are there for her.<P>Best wishes to you.