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#863627 04/28/00 10:20 AM
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Would it be considered a LB to ask my H for a phone number where he can be reached at night? We live 4 hours apart, he's trying to make up his mind between the OW and his family, comes to see us on weekends. <P> H's been staying with friends near where he works during the week, and last weekend he admitted he also stays at her apartment occasionally. I suspect it's been more than occasionally. <P> At any rate, with 2 little kids, it would be nice to know I could reach him in case of an emergency at night (I can reach him at work during the day -- and we gave up the cell phones after he ran his bill up too high). <P> I don't want to LB, and I'm not sure whether asking him for this information would be in that category. Any suggestions?<P>

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Not at all. Ask him for his number, in case of an emergancy. If he refuses, you might want to try some POJA skills and ask him if he might carry a pager if he didn't want to give out a number (assuming that this solution would work for you).<P>If he refuses, then you say OK. Insisting or getting angry with him will fall under the "lovebusting" categories.

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Thanks, K. I thought about the pager idea after I posted. I'll try asking for the number first...and take it from there.


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