My H called this morning to see if I would take our D for awhile tomorrow, because OW wanted to spend time alone. We started talking about him coming home. <P>Quick history here: H living with OW since Feb 7 has been telling me he thinks of me all the time and thinks he wants to come home. I am pregnant and will have baby by 15th; already have 5 yr old daughter<P>Back to story, I asked if he had changed his mind again about coming home. He basically said yes but that he does care about me. He said he knew he didn't treat me right before the affair and didn't think that he could change our relationship if he came back. He also thinks he would be coming back because of the baby and not me. He feels that the only reason we got married was because of our daughter. She was an unplanned pregnancy and we got married after she was a year old.<P>Anyway he had left some things here and had sent some home a couple of weeks ago, but is now planning on coming to get them tonight. I am to the point that I don't know how to keep hoping he will come to his senses and realize that what he has with OW is nothing and that it will never work. I am convinced this is all a game for her even if she isn't aware of her own actions. I think she is the kind of person who sees a challenge and doesn't stop until she wins. I think her victory is supposed to be our divorce, and then she won't want him anymore.<BR>

Vett: I am sending spiritual hugs in your direction. In hopes that you will be okay when he stops by this evening, you look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself "I am a good person", "I am loved", " I love myself" and " I don't deserve being mistreated" You have another child on the way that will need his/her mother in a positive frame of mind. You cannot change your spouse's behavior. He will have to learn his lessons the hard way. Just concentrate on taking care of yourself and your children and as destiny will have it, your life will fall into place with or without him. You can do it! You will be happy again! My thoughts and prayers are with you.