Now I really feel bad today (not that this thread is about me)! You come here daily and give your wisdom and what wisdom do I have to give you? UMMMMMM, but if you need to borrow some clothes I can do that (as long as you have them cleaned, don't sit, stretch, walk briskly, eat, cough, sneeze or breath to heavily in them)!!! <BR>I'm sorry, I was hoping to make you smile. What goes around comes around and dearest husband will definitely get his, may not be today or tomorrow, but it's coming. Not that I am the revengful type, not 'lil ole me!

Hey!!! It's me!!<P>Out in the back yard, watching a new bonfire (yup, found some fuel! ) and planing down a whole NEW SET OF 2X4's!! Looks like you might need a few. <P>Sending them up next day air, ok? <P>I'll talk to you soon.<P>Luv ya!<P>Lori

Sheba,<P>Thinking of you and sorry that things are getting you down. <P>You know in your heart and in your head that you are NOT the fault of all that goes wrong in your H's life. One of the things about infidelity - some people have a hrad time accepting any responsibility for what they have done or that they have made decisions that have negative impacts on others.<P>You are not in agreat place right now and that makes me feel really bad. I wish I could wave a magic wand and your health and financial problems would disappear - oh, and your dog would be healthy again, too. Alas, I can't. But, do know that you are so well thought of and looked up to by virtually all of us here on the forum, Sheba, including me. You have courgae, determination and spunk! True grit, girl!<P>I say punch away!!!!!! Wishing you happier times, friend.....<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Hang in there, Sheba!<P>Please accept from me all of the appropriate cooing noises. And smack that punching bag a couple of times for me.<P>When you're done, write a letter to your lawyer telling her what you expect from her and what she has delivered. Copy the state bar association and the partners of her firm. Might not make it all better, but it can't hurt.<P>It stinks when you have to Plan A your legal team.... <P>Good luck! --HBC<P>

((((((SHEBA))))))))<BR>hope you felt better getting all that out <BR>we love you, kiddo.<BR>hugs,<BR>julie

OK Sheba, come out come out where ever you are. Don't make me send the national guard out looking for you ! Check in time.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

I'm here....this is the first chance I have gotten to get on here today!!!<P>I was just reading all the posts from you loving people!!!! THANK YOU!!!<P>I am going to respond more...you know me I write novels!!! I have to finish reading first!!!<P>Be back in a few.......

Sheba,<BR> You always seem to be helping someone else out.It's about time you got some things off your chest.Hope you're feeling better.<BR> If not,try this:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.zelo.com/lawyer.htm" TARGET=_blank>http://www.zelo.com/lawyer.htm</A> <P> --Murph

ROFL Murph, don't let LoneStar see that ! <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Hi Everyone -<P>Of course, I must begin with again saying THANK YOU to all of you. It is so wonderful to have so much support, concern and love from others in this crazy world we live in...let alone from people who are going through so much turmoil of their own. <P>You are all great people and I am truly blessed to have crossed paths with you!!<BR>Thanks for the concern, compliments, laughs, hugs and love.....they are appreciated so much!!! <P>I am usually pretty tough skinned with allowing things to get to me....with my Whack-A-Doodle you have to be!!! LOL!!<P>I have made another step in this though!! More growing, YAY!!!!<P>You see, I was not upset with just H and his venom.....or even just the lawyer part of it.<P>There were a lot of other pepples that added to this "rock in my shoe"!! Like the Lawn guy not coming to do the lawn when he said, the boss holding me up for three months with illusions of more money at work so I would stay there, friends not following through with this or that, family dumping their expectations on me or projecting what they want onto me, etc.<P>See, just lots of "POOP"!!!! Things I have no control over, yet pay for in some way and things that just add more frustration at a time when I have enough of that already. <P>Where my "step" comes in is that this time.....are you ready?<P>I did not get hurt and cry or anything!!<BR>It was purely ANGER.....nothing was internalized!!!! No part of it made me feel guilty for something!!!!<P>Isn't that great? YAY SHEBA!!!!<P>For those of you who have been with me through this past year....you all know what I am talking about right? Was this good or what? <P>Just did my normal routine - which is usually......hurt, anger, perspective, carry on!!! This time - no hurt!!!<P>I think that why it wasn't a "hurt" scenario is that I generalized all these singular incidents into an overall disgust of people's irresponsibility and lack of consideration....it wasn't a one on one with ONLY me. Does that make sense?<P>The punching bag and tunes ALWAYS turns my anger into perspective!!! I am very lucky with that. Guess this is truly a case of "rolling with the punches"!! LOL!!!<P>I will be back on individuals and I will definitely have to do an update thread cuz some of the stuff going on is going to blow your minds!!! AND most of you know that when WAD speaks - anything can come out!!!!<P>Just a sneak preview good news tidbit for now......I am earning 150% more starting this week than I was!!!! Hey, me and Britt can buy the brand name foods again!!!! BIG YAY!!!!<P>BIG HUGS to ALL,<P>I love you guys!!!<P>Sheba

Thanks Murphy....LOLOLOLOLOL!!!<BR>I needed that!!!!<P>Lonestar.....we love you!!! You are different anyway cuz you love baseball!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

Helloooo Sheba!<P>Golly gee, I don't get over this way to lurk much these days but your threads generally make my day Not that I wish you to have a bummer day but the way you so eloquently share your roller coaster ride.<P>Now to look for the 'good' in the 'bad' --> did ya ever realize just what a powerful & awesome woman you are? You are the mighty & wonderful Oz, you're able to disrupt the whack-a-doodle's life AND all this while you're just minding your own business...hmmm, wonder what would happen if you really applied yourself ; his behavior indicates that you're still the closest person to him, not exactly the type of behavior you desire but an emotional response nonetheless. What do you think? You know yourself & the whack-a-doodle best.<P>BTW, please stop messing with the Dow, my meager portfolio is following the same path as my marriage .<P>PMA to you Sheba! <P><p>[This message has been edited by pondering (edited May 24, 2000).]

Oh my Gosh!!!<P>Pondering.....where have you been woman!!<P>I went in search of you awhile back at DB and didn't catch a current post to say Hi to you on......<P>Yeah, I am so powerful aren't I? Sheesh!!!!! <P>I am on the way to bed.....but just HAD to say Hi!!! Make sure you come back in a day or two for the update...YOU WILL love it!!!!<P>PMA right back at ya!!!<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

Sheba,<BR>You have offered so many pieces of wisdom and humour........this board would not be the same without your input...month after agonizing month for all of us. Thank you.<P>I came here to vent...again....and after reading your post want to offer my support.<BR>1)Under no circumstances is your lawyer acting professionally......change...find an eager young one ....not burnt out and impressed with themselves.<BR>I have been fortunate...my high priced lawyer is available day and night and ALWAYS returns my calls...someties I do not return hers!!!<BR>It is your money and get it to work for you.<P>2)Make your home Equity work for you if you can and refinance if possible with a longer amortization rate....get financial advice as soon as possible and <BR>3)set your dogs on the vet!!!!!!!and try again if they do not perform to your satisfaction!!!!(LOL)<P>We love your indominatable spirit and sense of self...oh for the WAD to understand this great person he gave up! More fool him. Not that this makes it easier for you...just sometimes more angry that "they" can be such @@@@@@@@!<P>