<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Lady M:<BR>[B]The marriage vows I took stated for better (when needs are met and I am happy) or worse (when needs are not being met and I am unhappy), not "as long as I get what I want out of it." ... You may consider your marriage over, but what about your spouse? To unilaterally make such a decision is cruel and disrespectful of your spouse.<BR>B]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>This came from another thread, but I had to respond and post it again. These words are exactly what I needed to hear. I've been wondering if I've done enough and concentrating on my needs (in divorcing), but you are absolutely right. I also vowed to be here for better or for worse and want to honor that until the end. Despite how cruely I feel I've been treated, I owe him the courtesy of making a joint decision to end it. Thank-you for such insightful words.