hey all, thought I'd throw in an update; my W and I have signed the big D (as in dissolution) papers and looks like we're both going to get out of this for under $1K.<BR> That's a plus...<P> We went to lunch on Wednesday and talked for about 45 minutes; I wasn't trying to lecture, but I was being honest with her about how I felt and how her relationship with the OM seems so shallow to me and others who know all of us (you see, I was friends with the OM and have mutual friends who are all affected by their relationship).<P> She told me she knows it isn't all cherries, but she's going to try and work on it. She knows we could've worked things out, but she wants to try and make this other relationship work...they're moving into a house this weekend.<P> She also wanted the kids to spend a couple of school weeknights with her each week; I told her no because she's living with him. Otherwise I'd have no problem with it. She didn't like my decision, but signed anyway (**sigh**)...<P> She appears to be on the road to unhappiness again; she wanted a bigger house, someone who has a better income and is debt free. Maybe she's realizing that that's what their relationship is all about...he's promised her things and been Mr. Touchy Feely Emotional, but he can't keep up the act either...<P> It's been 5 months...I guess I'll just keep waiting to see where all of this goes...<P>take care,<BR>theo<P>