I do not know what i would do with out all of your advice. 2 simple questions. 1. Our 6th Anniversery is Sunday do I acknowledge it? If so how card only card and present. any suggestions? Mad hair raising sex. I would have to get him here first, but it is his weekend with S. okay what would you do?<P>Michelle

In my opinion, a card is fine, small gift if you want. You can also just ask if he'd like to go out to dinner, or whatever, offer to cook if you want to. All he can say is no, and you've heard that before .<P>Stay calm, keep expectations low, make backup plans.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."<BR>(Proverbs 15:1).

Thats a good question, tigger. My 17th is coming up in October and I have no idea what to do about it either. The minimum gift I have ever given her is a card and one rose for each year of marriage. Although I can afford more than that now, I think I will stick to the minimum. If she decides she wants to make additional plans with me, then I will go along with them. <P>Best of luck to you on your Anniversary.

I still do not know what to do?!?

Gosh Tigger, you can do whatever you want to do. Given all the situations here, I doubt there is anything from stone-cold silence to naked in a raincoat that hasn't been tried.<P>What do you want to do? Ask yourself if that is comfortable to you or appropriate. Or if you care if it is comfortable or appropriate.<P>Our 2 bad anniversaries:<BR>#1 (affair had begun, I didn't know) we accidentally met in the card aisle. He said "let's just say we got each other cards and don't." That was it.<P>#2 (we were separated, he was also out of town working) I slipped a card into his luggage. He sent me a dozen rose, but didn't call that day.<P>This year we went out, had a great time, I think we did cards, don't recall presents althought there might have been some, and we fought like banshees when we got home.

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Today is my 10th!!!<BR>so I have been wondering also.<P>She had to go to work today and it is going to be a long day. The was a card at the table this morning with a small bag of candy. That is all I got, maybe more tonight but after 1 year with-out my hopes are not going to high. All I got her is a card that I MIGHT give her tonight when she comes home.<P>I must admit though that I was very disappointed about only getting a card with a $0.99 bag of candy for 10 years. But from a mans point of view if she just holds me tight and makes me feel wanted that would be worth more then anything that could be bought. <P>My thoughts on this has to do with whether you are the cheated or cheater (such a nasty sounding word). And ofcorse how the recovery is going.<BR>But more important then the day we married is the day she came into my life. That is the day I would like to celebrate.<P>I too am confused <BR>sorry not much help