I would like to know if any of think that after finding out that my wife has been cheating on me for 13 years and has had 6 different sexual affairs and 2 emotional affairs, is there any chance that I can recover and ever trust and love her again? Please share your success or failures or your valuable opionions with me.<P>Thanks,<P>Hurting Paul

Hi Paul.<P> When did you find out. All at once or every time? Need more info, very painful story. Once in 20 years is hard enouth for me to handle. GOD BLESS<P> My daughter cheated on her H more than once. She told me when my H was having affair<BR>once a cheat always a cheat. So i am concerned about the prospect. My H cheated on his former wife many times, but I truly did not beleive he would do it to me. STUPID ME<BR><P>------------------<BR>Deb

Hurting Paul,<P>Twelve years ago my dad found out that my mom had been having a 10 year affair with his business partner. They tried to reconcile in the first year but they both lacked the tools to do so and were separated for 10 years. Two years ago they reconciled and have been back together now since then doing quite well. <P>I am not really sure what it was that brought them back together but I do know that they now communicate and share more than they did when I was young. <P>I can say that looking at them I can see that it is posible to trust and love again after a long term betrayal, it is entirely up to you whether or not you forgive or trust or love again.<P>Just an aside or note to oldtimers who may be reading this...I can't think of the username of the person but a while back there was somebody posting who had a sucess story after a long term affair(husband left wife for OW I think, but wife waited for 2 years - sound familiar to anybody? ). If anybody remembers maybe you could post their username or a link to one of their posts.<P>Anyway, I am glad you found this site. There are a lot of caring people here who can help you through a really difficult time in your life. Come here for support, advice or just to have somebody to vent to. We are all here for each other.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

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