Hi Folks ...<P>New question.<P>If an A partner is meeting the WS's top 2 or 3 ENs yet still LBing, can the A last or even flourish?<P>I know for a fact OW is LBing BAD, it's her nature and middle name .... but at the same time she is also meeting at least the top 2 ENs of my H (sexual fulfilment and admiration). So I wondering if he will ignore or put up with the LBs simply because she is meeting those all important needs.<P>An example of LBs of OW are throwing the fact that he stayed with me so long and told her he still loved me up in his face.<P>Thanks for the help Everyone.<P>Lv,<BR>Jo<P>------------------<BR>Josie_Res@Hotmail.com<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"

Jo.....<P>Sorry I missed your call the other night. Try me tonight if you're home, I think I actually will be here.<P>I think you're right on here. The thing is, how long will it take? And I hate to be blunt here, but Ms Lana may be meeting more than those two needs...I think a whole lot of this has to do with those kids she has. Your husband feels obligated here...the hold she has over him is Plan G....guilt. <P>Now, I know you a bit Jo, and I find it hard to believe that Ms. Lana admires your husband more than you do...you clearly love the man and it seems like you let him know that. You, above all others, know his good points. I bet you already beat her out on the admiration thing. What other needs is she meeting here? <P>I have a little homework assignment for us. Let's go back over the EN questionnaires tonight and update a bit. I think this is a good idea, a little refresher course here. I'm a little excited because it's becoming more clear to me every day that my H's ow is not meeting his most important needs. H calls me all the time again wanting to chat for quite a while. I pretty much cut him off very sweetly, cuz I know his OW is not much of a talker...or a listener. I will not fill that need for him while he is with her...I refuse!<P>Call me if you're free tonight. We need to talk about your trip out here and other stuff.<P>allison

YO Allison ...<p>I'm trying to book my flight and have a question ...<p>What city are we flying into, I know the State is AZ, but what's the city????<p>Jo<p>Maybe you could email me at<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited December 19, 2000).]<p>[ April 24, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>