Dear Ihurt,<P>I can understand where you are coming from. I am the WS, and I can totally relate to your wife. I am currently in therapy, go every week. My therapist has shown me that all resentments, hurts, and they way we act out are of our past. We go all the way back to childhood. In healing our past hurts we are able to resolve our current ones.<P>He told a story of a husband and wife who had there share of problems. The wife acts out in rageful anger(me). The wife, yells, kicks, screams and throws things. While she is angry at what her husband did, she reacts because she is still holding on the the anger and resentment for being pushed down the stairs by her older brother. (just an analogy.) Makes sense to me!<P>In looking over my past and present, I am beginning to see these things become more apparant each and everyday. I have the willingness to heal because I am so sick and tired of myself and the way I live my life.<P>I have built up so many resentments over the years too. I don't hold on to them, but I do act out. Which is quite destructive.<P>So, my therapy is basically going back to childhood, and working my way forward. It can be quite scary, and you may think why bother? But, I have found I have "stuffed" so much stuff that I have become nothing but a stone. Uncapable of showing any real emotion. The only emotion I was able to show was anger. Now, at least I can cry. Its hard, but, I am hopeful. I am beginning to at least feel human! First time in 36 years!<P>Take Care<BR>PJ
