Hi there.<P>Noticed on your post to tshaw that you mentioned you had trouble finding Surviving an Affair - me too. Finally found it - and the other Harley material at Christian Publications in Avenida.<P>Hope that helps.<P>Sudz

Thanks. I will try some Christian publication stores here in Calgary - I'm sure they will have copies. If not, I really should just order it. I've read so many books, and I have read another Harley book I found in the library but everyone touts SAA as "the" book to read and I'm hoping it will be a good one for my H!<BR>Phew - what a long way to say thank you!

FOUND IT at Christian Publications in beautiful downtown Cowtown!

I'm glad you found it. Didn't realize they had a store downtown. We are about an hour south of the city, so seldom go any futher than the south end if necessary. Shawnessy stuff has sure made our trips to the city easier! (If you can get in and out of there!)<P>Don't know your details or how old your H is - but another book I bought at CP is Men in Mid-Life Crisis. It helped me understand his "lost sheep" stage as he was into a depression starting about 4 or 5 mos before the A (and a few mos before his 50th and our youngest daughter's last yr in high school). After I read it, I actually got him to read it. It is just a different perspective on how a basically good man can be so lost and selfish in order to make himself feel good. I think it helped him as he is really ashamed and sickened that he could have done this - he thought more of himself.<P>Take care.<BR>Sudz

Thanks - I'll check it out. After I finally read SAA. ANYWAY - H just turned 36 this August, but one of the first things he said to me when the A was revealed was that maybe he was going through midlife crisis - a little early I thought, but entirely plausible. <BR>Another long-winded thanks!