Hello,<BR>Most of you are not familiar with my situation. To make a long story short, my wife and I are a classic case, many EN's not met, EA/PA's. For the majority of the 3 years our efforts failed. Recently we had a "break through" in our marriage recovery. My wife came to the realization that she suffers from behavior addictions. As far as she can remember she has felt this way since she was 12 or 13 years old. She has had a repeated pattern since then, drugs, alcohol, fitness, risk taking, you name it, she has tried to use it to fill the void she has inside her. My part in this is I did not fill the void she has either and it has lead to resentment,the "numb" feeling I read so much about here. We have a long road ahead of us with no promises that our marriage will return. But I'll take it after living through the fog so long. <P>I would appreciate any information and past experiences concerning addictive behavior. She has taken the first step and started counceling, but I have no idea what to expect.<P>BTW, she will most likely read this post. She has taken the time to browse this site and will be reading your responses. Yes, this makes me very happy!!!!

Welcome <B>Raysofhope</B> and <B>his Wife</B>... <P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Both of you... Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>Help is available...<BR>It's good that she started counseling...<BR>...but consider it for your marriage too!<BR>I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<P>Do check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000554.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> post... for some ideas from memebers on additive behaviors...<P>As well as <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000558.html" TARGET=_blank>Other Useful Sites</A>.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>