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#900704 01/27/01 10:07 AM
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Well, there isn't any update. H was here for about 90hrs & never brought up the subject. There were actually times when there was no one here but us. I have bitten my nails to the bone to keep from asking. I had decided that he is planning on us returning to the states in June, so I am/was going to let him bring up the topic, but he never did.<P>I did ask him about job interview, if he was going to take it, no, he didn't like it.<BR>Made a few comments about a few things I like for the house, nothing negative, like don't do it. <P>I don't know what he is planning or if he is just too much of a wimp (he hate that label) to tell me to my face. <P>He is gone to Amsterdam for the wk for some course, he wasn't happy about it, said he was tired of traveling, told him to quit, he made a face, I told him well that is what you want to do anyway.<P>I know that he wasn't honest about when he left the states (I snooped) but nothing to point to what he maybe planning. <P>I was so ticked off by the time he left that when he said see you next wk, I almost replied if you are lucky.<P>Besides taking us to KL for a couple of days, he did do one other nice thing for me. He went to the grocery store & bought my meat & some other stuff. Now that might not seem like to much, but when you don't drive here (they drive on the wrong side, plus there are these motorcyles, plus I'm not on the insurance),you have to worry about how much you can carry home if you don't get a taxi, & the provsioner doesn't bring fresh meat. Now if only I can get to the wet market this wk for fish but that is another story.<P>Okay, thanks for letting me vent... until the next time....<BR>

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Sing,<P>You are hanging in there amazingly.<BR>I guess what H has to say is not very pleasant news for you so I guess he dosen't have ball to bring up..?(just speculation)<P>Yes, whatever he has to say he should say it since he said he wanted to talk.<P>It's too bad he's still lying... Sing, you are an extraordinaly woman to put up with them.<P>Hope you are doing alright, seems to me you have much more patience than I so do whatever you are doing right now...<P>Take care,<P>Meg<BR>

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I think you did well not asking him. It must have been very difficult. Does he contact you regularly when he is away? If he does, maybe you should be unavailable when he calls? It might make him think a little.<P>I can't imagine being in another country and having to go through this...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

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Terri,<P>He calls but not a great deal. We do more by email. However I don't plan on emailing except about issues that I need to discuss with him. I did send him a thank you card for the days away & for bring me a book I wanted from the states but don't think he opened it yet.

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sing - you're doing great. Keep biting your tongue! Keep venting to us. You may be far, but we are near!<P>Dave


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