Just venting a bit...<P>Last year, MIL's relatives from another country visited, and stayed at our house. They are back for another visit. Five people in MILs little car wasn't going to work out, so I lent them my van for the week. Wife had no problem with that. MIL called last night to see if they could come out for a visit. I said yes. They arrived and gave me a bottle of wine to thank me for the van. Not necessary, but nice. We had a nice visit for about 1.5 hours.<P>Got the call today from my wife. "How did it come to be that they went to your house?". I said "your mom asked if they could visit. Why?". She replied that it is weird. I asked "Am I supposed to say no?". She said "yes....oh well, I have to have a little chat with my Mom don't I".<P>Is this kind of crap common? Never a dull moment. She wants control over everything around her.

In a word, yes. This crap is common.<P>I had a conversation with my MIL shortly after this whole thing blew up. My stbx called and told me I was not allowed to call her mother because I told her things that I had no business telling her.<P>Well, if you don't want your mom to know you are f**king around, maybe you shouldn't be f**king around.

<BR>Truer words were never spoken, grandpabri. I've been wondering how things are going for you. Any change?<P>Rick, my stbxw has said similar stuff. And the quest for "control over everything around her" is absolutely identical to my situation. I don't know how common it is, though. <P>Good luck to us all.<BR>

CrapCrapCrapCrapCrapCrapCrapCrapCrap<P>Pretty common, Rick.<BR>Dave<p>[This message has been edited by worthatry (edited February 22, 2001).]

Worthatry<P>Can yo please edit a few of those craps out, or put spaces in ? I wouldn't ask but doing it that way thas thrown the thread out of kilter and made it hard to read.

Hi Rick <P> AKA: Flymsyex<P> Remember me? Anyway I always tell you about My D and SOL as they are going through the exact same thing!!<P> My D left my SOL for OM. But of course she claims that to not be true. He has temp custody of the 3 little boys, the D has been filed. He is going for perm custody. She claims he took them away from her?? FULL OF OM OR WHAT??<P> SIL came to our house a couple of weeks ago with our GC. Stayed all day. Had dinner with us. Was not even officialy invited. Just showed up about 11:00 came in, took there coats off, kids played. SOL sat at dining room table, as usual. Gee he must think we love him,huh?? Well we absolutely do. Always did always will. He is such a nice guy!!! My D was soooo spoiled by this guy.. At V-day he always got her a gift. We even started calling her diamond girl, he must have given her at least 3 in only a few years. Never missed a holiday. He loves her so much. His big fault was: WORK A. <P> When he started to have suspicsions, It was to late, He begged for a chance, asked her to go to MC, He did all the wrong and all the right things. But she was already gone,so to speak.<P> Anyway, you remind me of him. Well, anyway. My D did get upset about him coming over. She in her stupid, alien mind, actually think we should take her side. Of course she knew I was not going to, as I was having the problem of BS myself. <P> Can you imagine. Dad WS, D WS. At the same time!!!! And no one even suspected a thing for at least 2 months.<P> My D was even around me when I was going through all the nasties. She even got a little upset wih, DAD. She did not tell me anything about her own thing. Just sat there and listened to me. looking sad and surprised. She said " Just leave him mom!"<P> Also, same year. 2000. DIL had a PA.<P> I am just so thankful that God loves me.<BR> I wanted to die.<P> <P><P>------------------<BR>Deb