its been 2 weeks and still more lies. My H had affair with coworker, he is having trouble with not calling her "as friends" I am having trouble being understanding of him missing another. he will not come to this site, but has read what I have printed. I suspect he is deeply depressed and has contemplated suicide, he is normally a very strong man so would not share these feelings with anyone. I feel he wants to be a good and loving husband but cant quit lieing. please post some encouragement for him that I can print of and let him read. I am sorry but I am too wounded to help him right now. my story is under JFO scarletts story.<BR>thankyou<P>------------------<BR>L.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by sadprincess:<BR><B>I feel he wants to be a good and loving husband but cant quit lieing. please post some encouragement for him that I can print of and let him read.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Tell him to think of his life in terms of 90 years of triumphs, mistakes, good deeds, and failures. But that at the end, imagine himself sitting in a rocking chair, smiling at the children in the yard, tall wheat, a summer breeze, and sun bestowing tranquility.<P>Think of himself as a survivor, one who is able to overcome problems, even his own, and do the right thing. And with doing the right thing, understanding weakness and human nature, and learning a kinder way to view his fellow man.<P>In such an epic view of life, the OW becomes nothing more than a footnote, an asterisk, a coffee stain, in the story of his life.<P>Bama

Thankyou for the reply, I did type it up and he read it, he said it was nice but didnt know if it helped. actually I think it was more helpful to me , to think this woman would just be a speedbump in the road of life, and 10 years from now would mean NOTHING to me or him or our children.<BR>please post more reply's.<BR>thankyou<P>------------------<BR>L.

My H is posting here under the name "unbelievable". I printed a thread from Clarity? called Come on Baby,lift my fog. He could see the pain in the post and has been posting a thread called Thoughts from a WS. It may help your H to see the pain caused by his own actions. My H has been so much more open and honest since he began reading and posting here. Wish we'd found this months ago. <BR>Maybe those would help.