It seems that our culture today promotes divorce, meaks it so easy to run to divorce rather than work on a realtionship. I believ that when a couple is married before GOD they also make a commitiment to him to work thru the tough times as well as the easy. In fact both my W and I said that there was nothing we could work thruoght that divorce would never be an otption and now it is an option for W. WHY?

rs, why is a very good question, but there really isn't an answer for it, and in the end it's not important anymore.<BR>Yes it seems that more people are following the quick easy way to solve problems - which is by not solving them, just quiting.<BR>HOwever, in terms of working on a relationship, or trying to rebuild, knowing why won't really change anything.<BR>It depends why you are asking, I guess <BR>If you just want to know why, we can try and have everyone come up with their thougths. On the other end, if this is a why of frustration, if you want to work on your relationship and the why is in the way, them all I can tell you is that it really is not important. We need all our energy focused on what needs to be done. It already happened, so why is it so common now is not as important as what do we want to do about it and what can we do about it in our lives.<BR>Hope this is what you where asking, I"m not trusting myself much today 'cause I"m tired <BR>Hugs<BR><P>------------------<BR>"Each and everyone of us is deserving of a gentle thougth, a kind word and the gift of understanding"

Ridensober,<P>I heard a very good speaker last fall at a healing conference. She said that we call out to God and say," Why?"<BR>Instead we should say,"what's next God?" This is part of letting go and letting God. It just made it clearer to me.<P>Thnaks for your prayers,<P>gentle

Asking why would be to question God.<P>Of course, it is easier to say than to do- letting go and letting God.<P>But, I am telling you, after I say to God, "It is in your hands, God, because I can't handle. I give it to YOU" I feel so much better. Yes, I have to say this to Him quite often (several times a day) because my situation is so fresh BUT it works!<P>There is nothing like giving it UP !

:<BR>I do trust in GOD and have given everything up to him, this post was just a reaction to MY being tired and lonely. Actually it started when I ran into a neighbor that was getting mulch for his yard, all I could think of was I dont even have a yard to work in. Funny thing last year this time I was doing anything to get out of that work. It is amazing how GOD can and will change your whole being if you only allow him to and ask him to. I am actually mush better today Thank you for all your support. Sometimes I guess I just a little pat on the back and someone to say I AM PROUD OF YOU FOR ALL THE WORK YOU ARE DOING. Of course seeing my wife on the road did not help darn it every time I see her I fall in love all over again. Well I will continue to trudge this happy road of destiny