W (WS) came to our house for dinner last night. Our first dinner there since she moved out a month ago. She said she wanted to have a normal dinner at her own dining room table.<P>So when she gets there she begins crying...having a bad time for about 10-15 minutes holding back the tears. She says she feels like a stranger in her own home. <P>We did finally have dinner and talked.<P>She is still waffling--not really between me and OM I don't think--but more between coming home and not coming home. Committing to the relationship or not.<P>I tried to make her feel comfortable but I admit it was a bit awkward. Told her that that was probably normal and we need to do stuff in small steps. <P>She says that some times she looks at what is happening and says she doesn't understand why she can't come home. But other times she looks at it and believes it will be too hard. I told her that the hard things you do in life are often the ones most worthwhile. I am trying not to push and not to show my frustration and I think I accomplished that but it's hard.<P>Anyway, when she left I just told her that her home is where she can feel safe and secure--emotionally. That I am not there to beat up on her emotionally. <P>She says she loves me--she says she knows that--but still has issues to deal with. I'm not sure where we are. <P>Any thoughts?

Elad - sounds like you did a tremendous job. I've never seen tears from my wife.<P>Keep doing what you're doing. Don't pressure her. Remember to demonstrate your improvements.<P>Good Luck!<BR>Wat