I was talking to my H the other night and he said that OW has been unhappy her entire 12 year marrige ( where have we heard that before?) I said, well, what did you tell her about our marriage? He said that we had been unhappy a couple of years.<P>This from the man who while in the affair told me we never should have married, he knew there were problems before he married me.<P>So see. prospectives do change, the fog does clear. <BR>Lora

OMG!<BR>You want to talk perspectives change, my H originally told me the OW was:<BR>-A HARD WORKING BUSINESS ORIENTATED CAREER WOMAN (as opposed to me that was working full time and attending college at night) - since that time she has not completed one full week of work and he now admits that she is not that motivated interested in mainly a paycheque.<BR>_SHE WAS COMPLETELY HONEST WITH HIM BECAUSE SHE LOVED HIM<BR>-he found out she was 10 years older than he not five like she told him, he found out she was married twice before not once like she told him, she found out she had an affair in Ontario and that is why her family moved ot Alberta not her husband forced her to relocate like she told him.<BR>_SHE LOVED ALL THE SAME MUSIC AS HIM, WAS A GOURMET COOK AND THEY HAD EVERYTHING IN COMOON<BR>-she hated hard rock music and complained endlessly when he played his stereo (hubby is a musician music means eveything to him) she never cooked once in the three months they lived together (they lived on Pizza Pops and fast food) she hated bike riding, fishing, garage sales TV shows and coffee - all things we had in common<P>He states now that everything he wanted was at home and in hindsight he made himself believe everything about her without question because deep down he knew she was a liar.<BR>