This is the best ever. . he was here for the weekend & we went out to see a band w/our friends. We were pretty sure that OW would also be there & we discussed it a little. I didn't tell him anything about how I wanted him to act, but I did say that I wasn't going to start anything with her, but if she started with me that I have some pride & needed to be able to keep it.<P>So, we're there watching the band & in she comes, and decides to go on the dance floor, pretty much right in front of where we were. She & her friends were talking about us, or about him, b/c they kept looking over at us & laughing. I just said, she's got people laughing at you. A few minutes later he gives me this HUGE kiss. Then he asks me if I want to dance. So we walk right past her to dance-together. It was just so awesome & made me feel so good. It's exactly what I would have asked for if I would have told him how I wanted him to act. So, we dance for a few songs & he goes back to the table. They have words, he calls her an a&^hole, then-get this-he spits on her!!! It was entirely too, too funny. I mean, I feel kinda bad thinking something like that is funny, but I just can't help it. I lost it!! I mean it was kinda like I got my revenge (maybe that's not the word I'm looking for, satisfaction??), but I didn't even have to do anything!<P>I've been starting to talk to him some about "this web-site I found", and some of the things I've learned here about relationships. He's been receptive. . I've been telling him that if it's what we both want that we can work thru anything. That it's not going to be easy, and that we're both going to have a lot of yucky feelings sometimes, but that we can do it. I've been warned that I'm going to get really, really angry at him at some point and when I told him that I said that we would need him to be there when I felt like that. He says I'll be there, thru whatever happens. I've got some pretty heavy things happening right now with my girls' dad and I've been worrying if that situation was going to break us. . you know, a lot of my energy & time is dealing with that right now, not working on the relationship & it's still pretty early for us. But when I mentioned that to him he just says that he'll be here, no matter what.<P>Anyhow, just wanted to give you a quick update on Firday nite's events!
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