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Yeah, I know this is flippant, but I thought perhaps some levity was in order today.<P>If my H doesn't like my new haircut, I give up. My flaming queen hairdresser has done it again. I said "Softer, get the shape from the cut, not the perm." So he used a big roller, layered the hair, and WOW! I think it's great.<P>And people noticed I've lost weight too.<P>A nice morning (for a change). I feel a bit better today.

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[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] I had to read this.... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>You Go Girl!!!!!!!!!!<BR>I just changed my hair color, and am going to go get a new do soon too!<P>We'll be stylin'!<P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>

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[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Ha ha <P><BR>I'm glad you look great. <P>

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Now square those shoulders and keep on feeling every bit as beautiful as you are!!!

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D&C---you've made my day!! You look great from here, too!!!!

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I sure wish I felt that way about me.<P>

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WAY TO GO!!!<P>I recently got in a snit over my hair and cut it off short again. The only reason I let it grow out was because H has always griped about my short, short hair. I left my hair longish on top, but cut the backs short. Sure, I have to roll it to get the look I want (hot roller curls fall out and curling iron takes forever in the morning), but it lasts a couple of days.<P>H said it looks good. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] He also said he likes the color. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>I'll bet you do look gorgeous. If he doesn't like it, he has no taste!

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That is great. I bet you look wonderful. I think I am more happy that you feel wonderful. These H's must have lost parts of their brains, they are missing out. I hope today and everyday is a great one for you. <P>------------------<BR>You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR>* Viki

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I'm so happy for you! I bet you look absolutely gorgeous! <P>Your have a great attitude, love yourself!

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I love it!! I did the same thing, got my hair cut, had it longish for a few years and cut it to my shoulders, then dyed it red-auburn..boy did I get compliments!! Even the H said it looked really good!! We need to do things for ourselves!!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

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hi d&c, YOu are gorgeous inside and out!! <BR>(((hugs)))

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So did your H love it?<P>If yes, give him a prize!<P>If no...2X4 training...coming up!

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Yeah, he liked it. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>First thing he said when I walked into the room (he was upstairs in the a/c and didn't hear me come in) was "I like it!"<P>A-freakin'-mazing.<P>But I still feel weird about him and about us. I feel he's a bit distant, but I can't tell if he really is, or if I'm just looking for things because I feel so drained and the ol' love bank is empty, empty, empty.<P>Wouldn't be the first time I've projected my own feelings onto someone else; I just haven't done it in THIS relationship before.<BR>

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He may feel you are acting different, or some of your letter is sinking in.<P>Who knows?<P>So just be superficial today and bask in your gorgeousness!!

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Dazed - I don't want to throw you into negative thinking, but analytical thinking, okay? - My question:<P>If your husband is having or had an emotional affair with the predator, do you think his mind is wandering about Saturday? Maybe he is a little fearful of your potential reactions as a result of Saturday, and maybe even wishing he hadn't asked you to come along? - and now feeling guilty about it? - like faith said, maybe the letter planted some seeds?<P>back to the subject...<BR>Did your flaming hairdresser give you a quick lesson on how to style your hair?

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TnT:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>If your husband is having or had an emotional affair with the predator, do you think his mind is wandering about Saturday? Maybe he is a little fearful of your potential reactions as a result of Saturday, and maybe even wishing he hadn't asked you to<BR> come along? - and now feeling guilty about it? - like faith said, maybe the letter <BR>planted some seeds?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Uh...could you please explain? I don't get it. Do you mean LAST Saturday, when he invited her to go with us on a day trip and we ended up not going because of his Dad, or THIS Saturday, when there's that party?<P>It seems odd that he hasn't mentioned it.<P>I'd like to believe that some of the letter sunk in even though he's defensive about it, but I have no way of knowing.<P>As far as doing my hair myself, it seems to just fall into place with minimal work. I will have to go more often for cuts in order to hold the shape, but that's OK, because then I won't let the color go so long (he does my color too).

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Sorry - I missed something... I thought that trip was this Saturday...... Self absorbed TNT [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]

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Well, we are invited to a party at the home of one of "that crowd" this weekend. The host is a very nice guy; I liked him when I met him. But SHE will undoubtedly be there. (If she has a boyfriend, as H says, how come she doesn't bring him to parties?)<P>H forwarded me the E-mail with a message: "Wanna go?" I replied, "Sure. What do you want to bring?"<P>We're bringing meat and I'm making a coffee cake that's FABULOUS (show the b*tch I can bake from scratch, nyah nyah).<P>He hasn't mentioned the party since. I don't think he's even called the guy for directions to his house and he doesn't know where the guy lives.<P>Go figure.

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Good for you on your attitude! I recently did the same thing - cut about 3 inches off my total length and got some layers. My H hasn't noticed yet. But what can I expect from him. He is oblivious. I think it look s great. A real ego booster when people you don't even know come up and say "you have great hair" I overheard a little kid say in the grocery store the other day, "Momma, she's pretty" Then turn around to see him pointing at me. Little kids melt my heart. <BR>

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I overheard a little kid say in<BR> the grocery store the other day, "Momma, she's pretty" Then turn around to see him<BR> pointing at me. Little kids melt my heart. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Well, if it was me, I'd rather it be some 25-year-old studmuffin pointing to me and then saying to his BUDDY, "Hey, Trevor, now THAT'S a woman!"<P>Har har.<P>But the new 'do was really triggered by H telling me he doesn't like the curly perm I've been wearing for 10 years. On the one hand, it hurt...on the other hand, I guess it was good that he felt he could TELL me something...and that I DID something positive in response.<P>It is, right?

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